"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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dating manager's daughter?

trans_am17

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I just posted about dating a fellow co-worker but forget about her, I've got something better now. Today at work my buddy told me that one of our store manager's daughters has a crush on me. He said that her mom told him. According to him she said I was cute. Also her mom showed her my car (a 2002 Trans Am,racer red) And he said she went crazy over my car and really likes it. So anyway what do I do next? She doesn't hang out around the store or anything but her mom's pretty cool. Do I just talk to her mom about getting together with her?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Mr. Debonaire

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bad idea i think, unless her mom is supercool. if she is, then tell her to drop by some time when your working
 

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Her mom is supercool. So how do I know she's into me or just likes my car?
 

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i dont want to jump to conclusions but she could be really interested in material things,ie your car. but she said you are cute,which means as long as you keep your cool around her it should be easy to hook,go out with her.your call but i like to keep co workers and their family out of my personal life.
 

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A little update:

Okay yesterday I want out of town for a car show, but my friend(who happens to know this girl-went out w/ her in the 5th grade) said she came by our work and was asking if I was there and stuff about me. So I guess this means she is pretty much making the 1st move and definatly wants to date me. I asked my friend about her and he says she's like a goodie too-shoes(good grades, stays out of trouble). She sounds kind of boring and not exciting. Also I asked him if shes easy to get in bed and he said shes not. But apparently shes a really good kisser(which is kind of intimidating for me) Also he said her mom said I'm a good guy and she wouldn't mind at all if I dated her daughter. Any one have any tips on the kissing. Also comments and tips welcome please.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I don't think going out with her is the best idea because I am like blinkwatt and try to keep work out of my personal life. It is just like I won't work for family. If you do go out with her and then she gets mad at you, you might as well say goodbye to the job. It sounds to me like she would lie to get her way and would get you fired. Of course if you don't mind losing the job then by all means go out with or make out with her.
 

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big nono

when it doesnt work out, you are gonna get canned!!!
 

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Originally posted by penkitten
big nono

when it doesnt work out, you are gonna get canned!!!
Quoted for emphasis.

Watch yourself on this one.
 

penkitten

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sure the boss will say, it has nothing to do with my daughter

then she will say, its because you are insubordinate and you clock in late after lunch!
customers are complaining that you are making sexest remarks when you bag the groceries.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Originally posted by trans_am17
Any tips for kissing her? I'm inexperianced.
there is a kissing thread thats new
lots of stuff
 

UltimateScoundrel

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You won't get canned. If your manager likes you now, he still will if it doesn't work out. And let's be honest, you can probably find another job.
 

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go for it.
 

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So what exactly do I say when I first meet her? I don't want to screw this up.
 
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