Like attracts like. If you are constantly attracting sloots who treat you like trash and kick you to the curb leaving you empty and hollow inside then you need to take a look in the mirror.
Work on inner game and improve yourself, and that way you will naturally attract higher quality women. And the lower quality women who I just spoke of may still hit on you. But you won't be tricked into taking their bait this time because you know they're beneath you, and it's not even worth your time trying to be with them because it will only drag you down.
Whereas as insecure man, or someone who feels poorly about himself, will accept any girl into his life to receive validation because he doesn't feel complete without her. And a low quality woman/sloot will sense this and attract the low quality man because he's vulnerable and weak.
So the low quality woman then gets the man sucked into her vortex of manipulation and mind games, feeding off his weak energy as a means to mask her own insecurities by covering it up like putting a poster over a hole in the wall.
Once the man is completely drained and succumbed to her control and power, and left with nothing, she leaves him at his weakest point. She then branches onto another "victim" to employ the same tactics on him and the cycle continues.
It's a constant cycle of the man having low self-esteem and trying to fill a hole in his heart by latching onto another woman and basing his identity and self-worth on the relationship status and approval of that woman.
However, that woman is fuc*ed up herself with low self-esteem. Except she tries to fill her hole by breaking guys' hearts and destroying them mentally and emotionally because it makes her feel powerful temporarily.
But it takes two to tango. You can't enter this type of relationship without in some way or another allowing it. It's like women who constantly find themselves in abusive relationships. They probably didn't have a good father figure in their life. They subconsciously believe they aren't worthy of feeling loved, and they hate themselves.
So anyone who is genuine towards her, or has good intentions, she will destroy and manipulate, and ultimately leave him in the dust for a guy who will beat her and has serious anger issues himself.
So in this scenario both people have their own problems about them that attract them to these negative people and scenarios that you would call "coincidences."
1. The beta dude with no self esteem who has no identity of his own and bases all his self worth on the validation he receives from a girl. He has good intentions, yet he continuously finds himself being "Mr nice guy" (which is just another way of saying Mr. Insecure guy) and getting treated like sh*t, leaving him emotionally scarred and heartbroken time and time again. He doesn't understand why this keeps happening to him. Yet it's his own energy being reflected back to him and the same situations will keep occurring until he makes a conscious change within himself.
2. The girl who feels entirely empty inside, and preys on the beta dude I just mentioned above. They are easy targets and easy to manipulate. She knows he has no identity of his own, thus he will be easier to control and make him "latch onto her" where she will receive validation from knowing she has this guy in the palm of her hands, yet can destroy him at any second to feel powerful and boost her self esteem. And she WILL destroy him, and leave him when he's most vulnerable. She may also be using frequent sex as a means of validation. However, once she gets what she wants (his attachment, essence, praise, energy, etc.) she will leave him in a heartbeat. So basically her goal is to the make the guy OBSESSED with her. Then she feels validated enough to destroy him and move on to her next victim.
Or in her case, since she feels so poorly of herself, she will stick around in a relationship only in which she endures severe emotional and/or physical abuse because that's what she thinks she deserves. But keep in mind it's on a subconscious level so she may not realize she's doing it but keeps finding herself in the same repeating patterns of emotional/physical abuse, just like the beta dude who finds himself repeating the same occurrences of his own.
Back to the main thesis of your post. The key to dating conscious women is to be conscious yourself. A healthy relationship is not codependent, and it is not used to fill a void that you'd otherwise feel is empty or incomplete.
The essence of accomplishing this is outcome-detachment. If you are detached from the outcome, you are giving off the vibes that you are complete no matter what happens, and that no temporary, fleeting occurrence can define you as a person. If you truly believe this then you will have reflected back to you situations which confirm this belief.
And the ultimate paradox is once you grasp this idea of outcome detachment and just letting things be as they are without emotionally investing yourself into them, you will be filled with more abundance in your life than ever. More women, more opportunities, better women, more happiness.
You have to be happy the way things are, and act as if everything is already perfect. Because then your life will align that way with your beliefs until you see it for yourself.
If you keep chasing women from a perspective of "I need women to validate me. I need women to have an identity. I need sex to be happy." Then you will always be miserable. Because those 3 things are the same things as saying "I'm not good enough. I'm not good enough. I'm not good enough."
And if you keep telling yourself that you're not good enough then how the hell will you ever be good enough?
How the hell will you ever attract quality women in your life?
How the hell will you ever keep a relationship?
How the hell will you ever flip the switch and go from bad to good by always reinforcing the same negative thoughts that got you stuck in the sh*t hole you're in now to begin with?
Answer - YOU WON'T. wallah!
So just forget about the types of women you date dude. Women come and go like the wind, but the lessons you learn from them are forever. You may get bruised, broken, fallen, and scraped. But all those mishaps are the foundations of your strength and armor which you carry with you today. See every experience on how YOU can get better, how YOU can improve, how YOU can change. No one can make you feel like sh*t without your permission. If you fix your inner game you will naturally weed out the lower quality women who aren't worth your time, while simultaneously attracting higher quality women who are worth it. So look there first.
