"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dating a single mother Pros and Cons

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My biggest issue with her isnt the kid but the fact that shes 19. Kid or no kid, shes 19 and thinks like a 19 year old. Be areful she is still a woman and can if shes that sexy she can still get almost whatever guy she wnats. Im 29, and I don't have anything in common with 19 year olds. I won't lie, I love bonin 19 year olds but it is a sex only relationship. I don't mind women with children but it will only be a FB type of relationship.
 

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Haven't read the whole thread but...as far as relationships go with single moms.

Why would you want to do some other guys job. And pay for it to boot!
 

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I find have something in common with lots of people young and old...I feel I am a young 30.......She really caught my eye, and I dont want to write her off just yet for having a child.......I am sure all women are gonna be costly in the $$ dept. eventually


Besides these 19-20 y/o girls are just so sexy and FINE......30 year old chicks for the most part just don't compare. Plus depending on the girl of course, younger girls 20-25 are more fun and lively IMO.
 

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Originally posted by Slickster
Haven't read the whole thread but...as far as relationships go with single moms.

Why would you want to do some other guys job. And pay for it to boot!
Slick, it doesn't have to be about doing some other' guy's job. Some men out there actually enjoy being father figures to children who are not theirs. Passing on your knowledge and wisdom to a child finding his place in society can actually be enjoyable. If it is a good kid, who cares who the father is?

This is why some 2nd marriages with children from both sides work out.

On the Brady Bunch, did Mike tell Carol,
"Nah, I am not supporting some other's guy kids?" No. Mike used his salary as an architect and loved and took care all six of those brats, paid the housekeeper, and allowed Carol to stay home and look pretty all day. She didn't even have to clean up. The point is, Mike didn't mind and they became a good family. He was so much the man that he even had the girls last name changed to Brady.

You can learn a lot from them.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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