"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Dates Every Day
- Thread starter Yo'Mama
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
JohnnyStorm
Don Juan
Don't worry bro.Yo'Mama said:
You'll be fine this week.
It's not like there are any tube strikes or.......oh wait.....
Last night I went on a date with a Czech girl. I didn't drink at all but it was only because I was on so much Adderall. Not that it's needed but I would personally advise everybody on here to stay the hell away from Adderall unless you have genuine ADD and are taking it consistently and not increasing doses AND it is making your life liveable. I'm going to throw everything I have away. The multiple crashes (after redoses) I experienced yesterday were indescribably painful.
The date itself was bizarre. Normally I drink and am kind of confident, relaxed and escalate fairly quickly. On the Adderall I was like a madman. I spent three hours trying to solve this chick's housing dilemma not out of any sense of wanting to help her but just from the uber focus that comes from taking that stuff.
I think I'm going to try dating sober for a while. It actually fills me with dread. I have to admit that I do find women almost utterly retarded and all of my interest in them is physical. Or I guess it can be nice to have them around, in the background somewhere. But engaging with them on any meaningful level just leaves me, at best, irritated.
Dating is costing money. I can easily afford it but when I drink on dates I have a good time so it's like I'm paying for entertainment. Sober, i won't be entertained and I'm not sure what I'll get out of the date, other than maybe a second date if one comes. I don't know what conversion rate you guys have but so far I've been dating a couple of weeks and kiss closes only. I think I need to hold my ground from now on and just say they're either coming round for some wine and a movie or nothing.
None of these *****es even offer to split the bill. It's unbelievable. Jenna Marbles (who I quite like) did a YouTube vid on this and I agreed with everything she said. I just can't respect any woman who thinks it's her divine right to have meals, drinks bought, etc. If somebody tried to pay for me (friend or girlfriend) I would absolutely fvcking refuse. I mean I literally would not let them do it. How can they think it's fine? But what's the alternative, to fight with them over it or watch them look like you've just fvcked their mother as they reach for their wallet?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Am starting to think I should be posting on an alcoholism/substance abuse forum instead of SS.
Another date tonight. This madness cannot continue.
Intriguingly have a date with a model tomorrow who comes from serious money. Given the way the world actually works she is hugely out of my league. Am assuming she'll flake. It seems almost pointless to meet her, if she doesn't.
beatjunkie
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I did the same thing you're doing now back in 2009. Had plates spinning like crazy and the only way to keep going was Adderall XR. I had to stop after about a month because i literally almost went crazy. Slow down gradually man, this is not a way to live your life. why not do a plate-a-week? that way u can keep interest/mystery up with the others.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.