"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Date today with Authentic Asian chick...

Poonani Maker

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I had a date today with an authentic Asian (not citizen YET). Before she got there, I spilled my coffee all over a table (flimsy). Anyhow, I chose another table. So she's just as she described on Plentyoffish. TALL for asian, almost model-like, but I'd like to offer her some teeth whitening strips. So we are talking and I notice all of the other single (Alone) white chicks miffed about me sitting there entertaining the tall fashionable Asian chick. I could tell they were huffing and puffing - JEALOUS. The Asian was VERY unAmerican of course. She was Very agreeable, friendly, and funny, articulate, strong, and intelligent, almost manly smart in mathematics etc. She taught me some Chinese to boot. We talked for 3 hours. She bought a sandwich (I didn't pay). I only had coffee. We talked and talked and talked. She has No car. I mentioned using a bus to come visit me 50 miles away. Should I offer to drive down and pick her up?? She seemed unwilling to pay a hefty fare at $60 or more.

I offered to meet again next week (in MY town) and she says, "I'll have to see if my schedule blah blah work." In fact, she was going back to work this afternoon as they are real busy (financial analyst).

Also, I asked her if she wanted to just keep communicating via email or by phone (which I haven't obtained yet) and she said via mail, so I'm thinking she doesn't even have a cellphone? She doesn't interact with customers in her job, just a number cruncher nerd. She says, "I'm boring" about 3 times through the conversation.

I will move on to other women, but I ask you this: Should I offer to pay her bus fare to come up to my town? I would like for her to see my place, as she said several times she'd like to see it. I told her there's too much to show her in one visit.

She just takes the bus and walks around the big city in which we met today. She used to have friends (mostly asian) to drive her around but now they've moved off to New York or have "gotten married" and she can no longer ask them for favors.

I will move on however, which is what I'm doing right now spinning more plates in a few minutes at a bar as I type this.

This was Her first online dating experience.

[edit] She's also 7 years younger than me.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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chinny

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Maybe you can take middle way, keep in touch, visit her around her workplace. When you are comfortable with her, than pick her up.
 

hck332

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she's a f****ng financial analyst, she doesn't need your money
 

amoka

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For an asian chick, this woman seems like a game playa or she is not interested in you period. If she were, she would have suggested a way to solve the long distance problem. Either you visit her or she taking the bus to visit you. She is a financial analyst and yet she is not willing to pay a $60 bus fare to visit you? She does not even want to give you her phone number... these days almost everybody got a phone...particularly mobile phone. Why didn't you ask her straight for her number rather than going around the bush?
 
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