Date Ideas for the totally lost newbie...

[Sevinup]

This is almost a 2 part question. Sorry if it drags on, but the first part involves the details of my relationship with someone and I could use any advice you have on that. Second is a more specific question.

To give you an idea of what I know, I'm very new to this whole thing, and from reading several books and this website, I'm starting to grasp the concept of what to do and what not to do. My execution is a different story, but that's all with practice and I know that. Right now I'm trying to gain confidence just meeting new people and learning how to talk to people better. However, there's this girl who strung me along in high school and caused me severe one-itis, but eventually I gave up with her. She recently contacted me again. I have changed a lot since then, and I now realize what she was doing before. I knew it could be bad for my progress, but I figured this would be a nice challenge to try out skills on, knowing I fell for it before. So far I haven't focused on trying sexual things with her, other than a flirt here and there, and a little kino. What I've done so far is telling her that I may have intentions, but I may just want to be friends. It has definitely made her start chasing me more than she ever has. My problem now is when to advance to making my intentions clear (which btw is simply to have sex, not date her. I'm really just doing this because it's something I couldn't accomplish before, and I feel I can now). I no longer feel there's anything special about her and couldn't care either way, but I still want to go about it the best way as a learning experience. A couple days ago she invited me to her senior prom. I told her I'd think about it, and next time I saw her said I'd go. She tells me she'd rather put on her dress and go out and do something else with me (It's a Christian school, I don't blame her and I certainly don't mind). So we've just been doing normal friend stuff so far (mall, coffee, little bit of food, but no nice or extended meals), and I have no idea what to do that night.

Now that you know the story, I could simply just use advice on what to do with her. I don't want to go straight from little friend-outings straight into some romantic night, or at least I don't wanna be obvious about it. I know her well enough to know it will be a turn off. I want to give her a great time without seeming like I'm trying too hard (which clearly I am, I know). What's something fun that isn't too generic that would put me in the situation I'm going for?

 

[Purple]

Never tell a girl your intentions are only to **** her. Unless she's a total skank, it's going to scare her off, and if she sticks around, her last minute resistance will be like trying to break through 4 inches of steel.

A little flirting and some light kino isn't enough to keep you out of the friendzone, if you are going out with her and not kissing her, you need to rework your objectives.

Going to the prom is actually a great idea, you'll both be looking your best, and you'll have plenty of opportunities to get close to her when everyone is taking photos and such. The Christian school thing can actually help you out, by giving you an excuse to leave if the teachers and such get mad at you for being sexual with her.

If all goes well at the prom, you just have to suggest going to your place or hers. Give an excuse, any excuse really, such as "this suit is really tight, lets go to my place, relax and watch a movie" or "lets go get changed into something more comfortable and then decide what to do tonight."

It's prom night, she knows exactly whats on your mind, because sex is on her mind too. She may not want to go to your house because she knows it can lead to sex. Just let her have an excuse so later she can rationalize that sex wasn't the reason she went out with you, it just sort of happened. If necessary, you can address the subject directly saying "This is going pretty fast, I think I want to slow it down, so no sex tonight, alright?" If she brings this up later, like when she's butt naked in your bed, just tell her she makes you so comfortable that you let yourself open up to the possibility.

Remember, you must go for a kiss at some point. Just relax and don't try to lunge at her from 4 feet away. A simple trick to getting close to her is saying you want to tell her a secret, lean in to whisper in her ear. Make something up, or even just say "nevermind I'll tell you later." The point is to see if she pulls away from you when you move that close. If she doesn't, feel free to kiss her.

 

[Sevinup]

I wasn't talking about verbally saying that, I meant through actions.

I like to believe I've done enough to keep a sexual tone, and she has responded back a little more each time I see her, the problem is all our encounters lately have been pretty brief.

There was one time not long ago I should have kissed her, but I didn't. I lack confidence around her worse than anyone, but I've snapped myself out of that now, and she's noticed. That's why no matter what we do that night, I'm ready to take charge.

I tried to convince her it would be fun, but several of her friends are just doing their own thing with their dates too. I'm not gonna push the issue, after all she asked me. Where else would be a good place to get the same effect, somewhere interesting. I should be able to figure it out on my own, but that's why I'm here: to learn.