Date cancels few days before, need some advice

[bruceartest24]

Hi need some help with this situation..asked girl out she said she would love to go few days later she tell me that she was just reminded that she has a going away party for a friend on the same day of our date. She apologizes numerous times and tells me she feels horrible and that she promises she will make it up to me..i played it cool and said its not a problem thanks for letting me know...now i am kinda upset about getting flaked but should I try again or just ask her when she will make it up to me? not sure how to proceed was thinking about just distancing myself from her.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

I would give her the benefit of the doubt on this one. Specially since she told you a few days ahead of time. Usually when they are not into you or are planning on flaking, they will wait until you call, or will text you to tell you they won't be able to make it that night.

Next time this happens to you, see if she can have a counter offer for you. You will have to call her up, don't be gay by asking her through a text, email/facebook, IM; and suggest you two get together and mention a specific day. If she can't, she should counteroffer. If you find yourself having too dig, corner her, and pushing for a "date", without her making an effort, then you have your answer.

When they are interested, they will make it very easy for you to get together. When a broad is into you, she will often cancel other things if she is actually busy, but if she can't, she will be the one counteroffering.

 

[thevilittletroll]

i've always liked the angle of her making it up to me. rephrase your text. dont ask when, ask how....she is going to make it up to you, but do it playfully. always reject her first counter offer, say i'm busy on that day, and come up with something really cool to tell her. you dont want to look too available, show her you have options and you cant just wait around for her to ask you out, you are a very busy person. but it does sound like she is into you a bit cause she didnt flake at the last minute. but the amount of effort she puts into you going out will tell you her true answer.

 

[bruceartest24]

Thanks for the advice guys...I think I am just going to play it cool if she initates a convo or we bump it each other i'll ask her how is she going to make it up to me..if i don't hear back from her its on to the next one

 

[Johnnyventana]

Shyte comes up! You haven't even been on a 1st date with her. The only red flag was that she didn't counter offer another day, but maybe she thought you would. Give it a week, and try again. No harm, no foul. Of course if she flakes again, NeXT!