hi... im new here and found this site a couple of days ago by accident..... im just searching on how to get out of LJBF zone cause im pretty tired of being in that place already
so this is my story...
First is early this year w/c i fall in love with 1 gal i met, her name is tin.... First i just treated her as a friend... even ignored her for a little while but because she is so sweet, i fall in love with her... the first 2 months.. i tried to flirt with her and got good signs... i think its dec/january... so it continued till february and she gave me a flower picture online.... its on the 14th of february... yeah.. im a sucker for believing that it mean something.... So i got anxious and curious on why she gave it to me... i interpret it that she also like me and give the "I Love you" word to her online.... then of course. the answer i got is "sorry, but i only treat you as a brother, i have no attraction with you... hope you understand" and also this bull**** "the woman you will love will be really lucky cause your a nice guy" ... Yeah thats me.. a Nice guy...
BTW it didnt ended there... when my heart got broken.. i said to her.. "its okay, ill wait, maybe you will change your mind.. and ill still be ur friend forever.. im not gonna change..." yeah im a martyr.... damn. then after some depressive 2 weeks of being rejected, one of my close friend told me that he knows why she rejected me.. one reason is she`s a lesbian and only got attracted to girls. eventually She also said it to me... and i actually accepted it... I still love her that time and gave her advice on how to handle her case... SHe a closet lesbian btw.. only 3 people know it that time.. her bestfriend , me and the one she`s courting.. also a "girl" ... the worst thing is i help her by giving her techniques on how to get the girl... imagine how a loser am I... my thoughts that time is "maybe if im nice she will change her mind, maybe she will change to be a girl after sometime" but months pass... She got the girl and they are now in a relationship... yeah im the wingman for her... When this is occuring.. i got over my feelings for her because i found someone sweeter than her... so this is the next story
While i got LJBF by TIN.... i got a girl from work that im pretty close with. her name is rei. she always texted me about something.. she is sweet, caring, loving... at that time.. she become my textmate .. she the first one to text me, go near my place on work, even ask me for lunch... this is while im still trying to get tin attention..... so i become close with her and shared her everything from my problems with tin and my martyr ways... she always listen and try to comfort me... thing is i fall for her for that..... after sometime i notice that im the one who text her first... get her attention first... and give her much more attention, i become EMO as well if she dont text back... yeah im a fool lol....so At 1 point.. i tell her my feelings as well.. this is just last october. and she told me im just her friend. So i become the AFP i am agian... give her flowers , give her chocolates.. text her first.. saying to her "give me a chance" etc etc... yeah thats me.. I notice that she trying to stay away from me now.. and now i understand why.. after reading some articles in this site
Anyways... i really want to change, its sucks to be an AFP
.... im not really that bad on girls just that when i fall in love... i become the persuer... and seems that not good at all... i become honest and just forget everything about pride etc etc .. anyways i found this place and im happy reading and learning a bit for now...
anyway, Ill try to hang out with a prospect for now... i got a friend who always invite me to watch a movie. but i ignore her cause im in the imppresion of "stick to one" thingy even if she is also my crush at the moment....Hope its go`s well
so this is my story...
First is early this year w/c i fall in love with 1 gal i met, her name is tin.... First i just treated her as a friend... even ignored her for a little while but because she is so sweet, i fall in love with her... the first 2 months.. i tried to flirt with her and got good signs... i think its dec/january... so it continued till february and she gave me a flower picture online.... its on the 14th of february... yeah.. im a sucker for believing that it mean something.... So i got anxious and curious on why she gave it to me... i interpret it that she also like me and give the "I Love you" word to her online.... then of course. the answer i got is "sorry, but i only treat you as a brother, i have no attraction with you... hope you understand" and also this bull**** "the woman you will love will be really lucky cause your a nice guy" ... Yeah thats me.. a Nice guy...
BTW it didnt ended there... when my heart got broken.. i said to her.. "its okay, ill wait, maybe you will change your mind.. and ill still be ur friend forever.. im not gonna change..." yeah im a martyr.... damn. then after some depressive 2 weeks of being rejected, one of my close friend told me that he knows why she rejected me.. one reason is she`s a lesbian and only got attracted to girls. eventually She also said it to me... and i actually accepted it... I still love her that time and gave her advice on how to handle her case... SHe a closet lesbian btw.. only 3 people know it that time.. her bestfriend , me and the one she`s courting.. also a "girl" ... the worst thing is i help her by giving her techniques on how to get the girl... imagine how a loser am I... my thoughts that time is "maybe if im nice she will change her mind, maybe she will change to be a girl after sometime" but months pass... She got the girl and they are now in a relationship... yeah im the wingman for her... When this is occuring.. i got over my feelings for her because i found someone sweeter than her... so this is the next story
While i got LJBF by TIN.... i got a girl from work that im pretty close with. her name is rei. she always texted me about something.. she is sweet, caring, loving... at that time.. she become my textmate .. she the first one to text me, go near my place on work, even ask me for lunch... this is while im still trying to get tin attention..... so i become close with her and shared her everything from my problems with tin and my martyr ways... she always listen and try to comfort me... thing is i fall for her for that..... after sometime i notice that im the one who text her first... get her attention first... and give her much more attention, i become EMO as well if she dont text back... yeah im a fool lol....so At 1 point.. i tell her my feelings as well.. this is just last october. and she told me im just her friend. So i become the AFP i am agian... give her flowers , give her chocolates.. text her first.. saying to her "give me a chance" etc etc... yeah thats me.. I notice that she trying to stay away from me now.. and now i understand why.. after reading some articles in this site
Anyways... i really want to change, its sucks to be an AFP
.... im not really that bad on girls just that when i fall in love... i become the persuer... and seems that not good at all... i become honest and just forget everything about pride etc etc .. anyways i found this place and im happy reading and learning a bit for now...anyway, Ill try to hang out with a prospect for now... i got a friend who always invite me to watch a movie. but i ignore her cause im in the imppresion of "stick to one" thingy even if she is also my crush at the moment....Hope its go`s well