Cut to the chase

[Energizer]

I met a girl at the beginning of the summer who I was attracted to from the first time I saw her. We became acquaintances and I saw her on a regular basis throughout the summer and the more I got to know her the more I was attracted to her. It appears she was interested in me too. We had banter, we flirted and she would have this big gleaming smile on her face everytime she saw me. She would always approach me to talk to me and during the summer. Some popular dude had a party set up and she said to me she would only attend if I went. It was pretty clear she was interested in me, she gave me the green light with hindsight, so me feeling confident I could nail this chick, I decided I'd get with her at this party.

The party came, I went and she arrived later than I did, she made no effort to come and say hello to me, I eventually went up to her and said hello and we got talking, then we both got talking to other people and I decided to mingle in with other people. As the crunch drew closer, I got nervous so drank some alcohol and in doing so got drunk, I am a light drinker and even breathing air gets me tipsy. Anyway, I exchanged numbers with her and asked if she wanted to go out sometime and well she didn't look impressed and showed no attention to me throughout the rest of the night. Well, my ex was at this party and she wanted to give it a second chance, so being angry that I messed up with the girl I liked and being annoyed she didn't show enough enthusiasm that I wanted to see, I decided to accept my ex's proposal and we went out again. I didn't see this girl I liked much after that. But when we saw each other we always flirted and the banter continued between us. My second spell with my girlfriend was a nightmare, I hated it, I knew made a mistake and I spent virtually all of the second spell of it wanting to be with the girl I met over the summer. Well we broke up in early October and I have wanted to be with girl I met in the summer for ages. I'm just not sure if she still feels the same way. An incident happened where I think she wanted affection after a personal problem and I didn't offer any, I came across as being aloof and I think that upset her, this was a few weeks ago.

There is another party coming up, not sure if she is going, but if she does, I want to go with her, but now I am not sure if I should even attempt to, because I can sense rejection. I mean a girl isn't going to accept all that stuff and still give the man a green light, or is she?

 

[Energizer]

Dude, thanks for your input. It's appreciated!

I wouldn't say I am puppied eyed over this girl and I do find her attractive and would have liked to have seen where it would have lead, clearly you feel no where, so I'm inclined to accept your opinion. I'm an amateur at this game.

The part that of your post that make no sense to me are the parts where you say she rejected me. How can she have rejected me when she willingly exchanged numbers with me and said she said "yeah" when I asked her if she wanted to go out? I always assumed she wasn't impressed that I was drunk when I asked her and she approached me earlier on in the party and tumbleweeds passed, so I thought she might have been annoyed at that, so your insight offers another explanation that never once crossed my mind.

When you say she is out of my league maturity wise who is the immature one here, me for being a tool or her for being a female version of a player?

Oh and I am learning many lessons and I always keep my options open, I just never thought she was like how you described! Well at least now, I don't have to go to her birthday party!