synecdoche
Don Juan
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This week I had an issue with a girl I've know for a while and I don’t know if I handled it well or should have done something differently.
Girl I had been dating for a while, broke up with her because her IL was getting low. After a couple of weeks she starts texting me again. She starting chasing me asking me how my day was, double texting, talking about things we did whilst dating, premise was that I still had a book of her that she wanted back and she wanted to meet.
We were set up for Saturday to give the book back and have a drink and play some pool. She texted me that she’s having a rough week and a busy weekend and she wants to stay home Saturday because she has to get up early on Sunday and she’s very stressed lately. She didn’t propose something else or another day. In my opinion she’s just trying to toy me (string me on), has another date or her IL is too low and she’d rather chill home than drive to the city.
How would you guys handle this? I wanted to try something different and called her out.
“Lame excuse, I’ll send the book to you by post.”
She got very emotional and was pissed, started nagging about how I should understand her etc… I responded that I understand her but she should understand me as well and I don’t have time for bull****. (She has no problem with going out with friends every weekend, but this weekend she suddenly wants to catch some sleep.) She got more pissed. Eventually I asked her what she proposes. She messaged me back that she wants to go meet another day (no specific date) if I would still want.
HB: Yea, lets meet another day?
HB: If you still want at least
HB: (stupid emoji with a kiss)
ME: back to puzzling… (cause we both have not a lot of free time)
HB: Yea cause you’re always busy yourself
ME: You know I’d be happy to make some time for you
She knows that last text was said with an undertone of irony, but maybe I should have left her in the dark and have answered with “We’ll see, I’ll think about it” on her proposal, yet since I asked her for a counteroffer so it felt a bit stupid to do that.
I feel like having a conversation like this makes me look like I’m butthurt, however just acting like it’s no problem and avoiding conflict at all and say we’ll meet another time or even propose something else to her makes me look like I’m a push-around who would be happy to meet on her terms.
How would you guys handle this situation? Thinking more about it, I might had to just ignore her after I called her out. Not only show words but action as well, that BS has consequences.
Does any of you sometimes create a bit of conflict with a girl just to piss her off and give her some strong emotions? Or am I seeing this completely wrong?
Girl I had been dating for a while, broke up with her because her IL was getting low. After a couple of weeks she starts texting me again. She starting chasing me asking me how my day was, double texting, talking about things we did whilst dating, premise was that I still had a book of her that she wanted back and she wanted to meet.
We were set up for Saturday to give the book back and have a drink and play some pool. She texted me that she’s having a rough week and a busy weekend and she wants to stay home Saturday because she has to get up early on Sunday and she’s very stressed lately. She didn’t propose something else or another day. In my opinion she’s just trying to toy me (string me on), has another date or her IL is too low and she’d rather chill home than drive to the city.
How would you guys handle this? I wanted to try something different and called her out.
“Lame excuse, I’ll send the book to you by post.”
She got very emotional and was pissed, started nagging about how I should understand her etc… I responded that I understand her but she should understand me as well and I don’t have time for bull****. (She has no problem with going out with friends every weekend, but this weekend she suddenly wants to catch some sleep.) She got more pissed. Eventually I asked her what she proposes. She messaged me back that she wants to go meet another day (no specific date) if I would still want.
HB: Yea, lets meet another day?
HB: If you still want at least
HB: (stupid emoji with a kiss)
ME: back to puzzling… (cause we both have not a lot of free time)
HB: Yea cause you’re always busy yourself
ME: You know I’d be happy to make some time for you
She knows that last text was said with an undertone of irony, but maybe I should have left her in the dark and have answered with “We’ll see, I’ll think about it” on her proposal, yet since I asked her for a counteroffer so it felt a bit stupid to do that.
I feel like having a conversation like this makes me look like I’m butthurt, however just acting like it’s no problem and avoiding conflict at all and say we’ll meet another time or even propose something else to her makes me look like I’m a push-around who would be happy to meet on her terms.
How would you guys handle this situation? Thinking more about it, I might had to just ignore her after I called her out. Not only show words but action as well, that BS has consequences.
Does any of you sometimes create a bit of conflict with a girl just to piss her off and give her some strong emotions? Or am I seeing this completely wrong?
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