"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Crazy stalker boy

WastelandWarrior

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This is kind of long.


So a girl friend of mine (she is a girl and a friend, not g/f) has been having this problem with a stalker boy for the last 2+ months. Basically he calls her a minimum of 5 or 6 times a day, every day.

He's heen known to show up at her house unanounced and call her to tell her he is outside. This has happened more than just a few times.
She told me a story about how she was sitting shotgun in the car with her (soon-to-be-former) b/f and he came up behind them at a stoplight, opened the passenger door and tried to pull her out of the car. If she wasn't wearing a seatbelt, she may have been pulled out!

She lives with her parents but hasn't said anything to them about this problem she is having. Today changed that.

For the last 4 or 5 weeks, I've been telling her that she just needs to stop answering the phone when he calls. If she does decide to answer, just tell him to she isn't interested.

She swears up and down that she told him more than once that she wants nothing to do with him. He comes back with "I love you more than you will ever know." There was never even a relationship!

What a crazy night tonight was!

So, at 9:58 tonight, the phone at work rings and stalker boy's # comes up on caller ID. I wanted to answer, but she said to just let it ring (she is my boss, but definately a friend, too). So, on his first 4 calls I let it ring until he finally hung up.
The next call, I answered, told him "I'm sorry, we're closed," and hung up. He called back at least 2 or 3 times but I let him hang up.

He then decided to call her cell phone at least 3 or 4 times. She let it ring and told me not to answer. Whatever. I finally got ahold of the phone and clicked the ignore 3 times while we finished our work.

Almost finished closing and stalker boy continues calling. She says I can answer the phone but I can't speak. So I answered and hung up at least 8 times without a word being said.

Stalker boy left a message on her phone saying "Why is WW answering the phone saying you're closed? Why can't I fu--ing ask you how your day was? Why can't you just answer the phone and talk to me instead of having WW doing it for you. I should have come down earlier, I would have had something to show you."

Thats at least 20 calls in 25 minutes!!!

So we finished up closing and I got in my car. She's telling me she's on her way to break up with her P.O.S. little b/f. We were bullsh--ing in the lot for a minute and stalker boy shows up in his car as I was pulling out of the lot! I waited to make sure he wasn't going to try to stop her by blocking her in.

I see all is good and we go our seperate ways. I notice he was following her and called her on her phone. I told her to circle a block and if he continues following go directly to the police station and call them while on her way there. The station is about 500 ft. from where we work.

Well, we hang up and I get a call back about 5 minutes later. He ended up cutting her off on a side street, got out of the car and attempted opening all 4 locked doors. Then he proceded to pound on her window with his fists demanding she gets out of the car.
She dialed the police, showed him the 911 call was connecting and he took off.

She's at the police station now and I'm waiting to hear what happened.

She isn't great looking. She's overweight, but its easy to tell she was smoking hot when she was physically fit. Very cool chick, though.

He is a better than average looking guy. He's not a dope fiend, either.

He's going to get whats coming to him. Its a matter of who's going to deliver it. Hopefully the law deals with it or her dad will beat this little boy into a bloody pulp.

I really hope he doesn't decide I have anything to do with this mess, but I'm not taking any chances.



Thoughts? Comments? Questions?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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HateOnMe

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Well I hope she gets a restraining order on this guy, can't do much besides that. People like that are mentally fu cked in the head, just becareful.
 
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