Could Use Some Insight On How To Play This Now...

[golf299]

all right,

in a previous post i talked about a girl that i asked out about a month ago. she said she wanted to but wasn't ready for the commitment yet. however, she showed high IL by calling me all the time and accepting dates. we hung out a lot.

then suddenly she went cold on me for about a week (that was last week).

now things seemed to be getting back on track. we hung out at her place one night, gave each other massages, and she had been calling more (but not as much as she had in the beginnging).

problem: i think i'm starting to get too clingy. i've started to call her more than i should. just today i called her and left a messege (that sounded pretty desperate now that i think about it). the message was talking about doing something together on monday. she hasn't called back, and i am doubting that she'll call back at all this weekend. she is out of town now.

if she doesn't call back at all this weekend, should i still try and contact her on monday to get together, or should i just forget it and let her contact me?

i'm ready to see if this is for real or not and i want to go for the kiss now, that's probably why i was getting a bit too overwhelming.

thanks guys!

 

[earthshyne]

As I read this, it seems that you and she are both attracted to each other and enjoy each other's company. So far, so good.

Not knowing her, I don't think she's playing you, and I don't think it's anything beyond the fact that she really hasn't had the opportunity to call. Still, you won't do yourself any favours by leaving any more messages on her answering machine.

You've done your part, called and left a couple of messages. It's her turn to reciprocate now. Wait for her to call back. It may or may not be about Monday, but wait all the same.

Just my $0.02.

 

[golf299]

that's what i'm planning on doing: waiting.

but if she doesn't call, should i still not call on monday?

i had a sort of deadline set for myself, and monday i was going to finally kiss the girl...

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Originally posted by golf299


i had a sort of deadline set for myself, and monday i was going to finally kiss the girl...

Don't do this. EVER. Setting "deadlines" for yourself like this will do nothing but to make the situation more awkward for both of you. Let it come naturally.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Quit massaging chicks - women massage men and men do not massage women (disclaimer: unless it is their breast and /or buttocks!!!)

Massaging - rubbing a ho is much more intimate than a kiss!!! I don't see why you are so hesitant! A kiss is much more appropriate than a body massage - no??? Would a girl (ho) let you rub her body but not let you press your lips to hers??

 

[golf299]

i know, a massage seems pretty intimate to me too. by the way, she gave me a massage as well.

how's this?: if she doesn't call over the weekend or even on monday, i'll call her. if we wind up getting together that night i'll pull the massage thing again. she'll be in my hands, so we'll see if something can happen...

 

[golf299]

any other insight???