Cool, Suave DJ vs Hot, Fun Alpha Male

[SamMalone]

Which one do you try to be and which one works better? I'd imagine younger girls are more attracted to the fun guy while older women would like the suave guy better. Is this true, or is it just up to the individual women which one she is attracted to?

 

[Egoist]

Originally posted by SamMalone
Which one do you try to be and which one works better? I'd imagine younger girls are more attracted to the fun guy while older women would like the suave guy better. Is this true, or is it just up to the individual women which one she is attracted to?

you can be both.

as soon as you start stereotyping yourself, you're done..

 

[Alphathree]

Is the Hot, Fun Alpha Male not also Cool and Suave, and vice versa?

I don't really understand the distincting you're trying to draw.

Just remember:

Radiant, Strong, Warm, and Assertive

Those are masculine qualities.

 

[SamMalone]

A cool, suave guy I had in mind is like a James Bond type. The fun alpha male I was picturing to be a center of attention, always having fun but doesn't care what anyone thinks party guy.

It's probably best to be both and just adapt to the situation sure, but I was just asking hypothetically.

 

[Alphathree]

Originally posted by SamMalone
A cool, suave guy I had in mind is like a James Bond type. The fun alpha male I was picturing to be a center of attention, always having fun but doesn't care what anyone thinks party guy.

It's probably best to be both and just adapt to the situation sure, but I was just asking hypothetically.

James Bond would be the center of attention if he entered a room: everyone would notice.

If you're actually _trying_ to be the center of attention and it doesn't just happen naturally, that's not good.

I usually find myself in the center of attention and then try to move out of it. Doing otherwise is too 'etherically' pushy. (Read some new-age B.S. to understand that... it might be crazy, but it helped me a lot. Silent Power by Stuart Wilde, for example. Or anything by the Crimson Circle.)

I actually think James Bond is a bit flawed as a pickup artist because he never makes any mistakes or shows vulnerability. Certainly, his strength of character goes a long way, but some girls look for someone a bit more down to earth. I guess that's the "Fun alpha male" component you're talking about, and yes, you do need that.

If you're too suave, too perfect, you come off weird. No one likes perfect people. Be flawed.