Contradiction?!?

[neobrood]

Ok... What is really more important? I gotta be clarified on this...

Seducing Women or being "Complete"?

- On one side, we have people who keep on asking for tips on how to get women... and people who brag about their "conquests"... "Ooh... I saw HB9 in a party... and this is what I did... blablabla... and she was really into me... etc... etc..." and also people getting depressed about not getting a gf.

- On another side, we have people who say that a Don Juan is COMPLETE by himself. He is NOT supposed to be needy... DJism doesnt only revolve around women. It doesnt necessarily mean that if you're a DJ, you have a girlfriend. Even AFC can get girlfriend or even marry... and so on, and so forth...

 

[The_King]

Its to become complete...

I beleive, that you do not need a women to be complete. Its about being the best man, you can become and achieving your dreams and desires. Living this life to its potential.

Women, add to you they are not to be taken as part of you. You should not define yourself by your lady or by how many conquests you have. The importance of this is only what you place on it. If its your dream and goal to have loads of women, I would be worried as to your long-term happiness and stabiltiy.

I post advice on this site about women and field reports becuase members want handle this part of their life, and thereby hopefully I can hlep by posting my experiences which is always betteer than theorising. Its up to people, how much they value what I post.

I see no contradiciton. I see similarity in that by being complete you will naturally tackle the area of your life in relation to women.

 

[So pimp its scary]

This is not a valid question.

Seduction is a necessary step towards completion, and it like any other area. Should you dominate your focus on seduction as example, you will be bringing yourself further and further from completion.

Completion in itself is about balance.

There are 2 theories of human needs, one has it's basis in NLP which says that the 6 human needs are :

1 - Love / Connection : This is the category of seduction.
2 - Significance
3 - Certainty
4 - Uncertainty / variety
5 - Growth
6 - Contribution

The other theory is based on Abraham Maslow's study of human motivation. The primary motivation is caused by deficiencies, and you must have all of these before moving to higher levels.

1 - Physiological needs : First air, water, then food.
2 - Safety Needs : In other words a place to sleep
3 - Belonginess and Love: affiliate with others, be accepted;
4 - Esteem: to achieve, be competent, gain approval and recognition.

Once you attain these four levels of human needs, you then enter into human growth needs, if and ONLY if the first 4 are being met.

The first 2 levels of growth needs are

5 - A need to know and understand your surroundings
6 - Aesthetic needs

Once these are met you can enter the last levels

7 - Self-actualisation : To find self-fulfillment and realize one's potential.
8 - Self-Trancendance : Which is to attain a higher connection than that of the ego.

Maslow theorised that most attain self-transcendance by first attaining self-actualisation, then teaching another to reach self-actualisation, and has the side effect of turning the person wise.

So, you can see that 'completion' is not complete without seduction.

 

[ShortTimer]

You'll never be able to love someone else until you love yourself, so I vote for number two.

 

[neobrood]

tnx for clearin this up for me...

Cuz by the way I act, as if seduction is more important... So its all part of development...