"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Contact out of the blue.

ItsFate451

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A girl I was dating a few months ago contacted me out of the blue. All she said was “hey how are you?” This is after I went NC when she ignored me, when I asked her out on another date. Since she reached out I wanna ask her to come to my place but I kinda want to make her work for it after ignoring me. Is this the right approach?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Yes, it’s the right approach. High odds you will get at least one more contact if you ignore the first one. If you want to, make her go for three before a reply. Her determination depends on her current interest level or her out of other options factor…
 
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A girl I was dating a few months ago contacted me out of the blue. All she said was “hey how are you?” This is after I went NC when she ignored me, when I asked her out on another date. Since she reached out I wanna ask her to come to my place but I kinda want to make her work for it after ignoring me. Is this the right approach?
Only if you don't have feelings for her. Only if you don't really care and it could take it or leave it . But if you have scarcity mentality you have to stay no contact even if you really want sex and or validation from her because she denied it, you have to go against your feelings.
 

R.U.G.

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Been there and here's what you do. You wait a few hours or the next morning and hit her back. Invite her over to your pad and you'll make something to eat, then Netflix and chill. See where it goes. Working on your kino and touch. Forget about the past and start a new page. After you fvck her, proceed as you wish.
 
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