Contact a girl who dumped me?

[Jack Hensy]

I'm kind of pissed of. Me and this girl had a good connection and suddenly this girl flat out dumped me. I think she was dating another guy or maybe not. I don't know. The fact is she stopped texting me, ending dates early. I got into it with her and called her on her BS.

I was going to send her this honest text...
."Our relationship had nothing to do with sex. It was the connection. Your interest level dropped fast Saturday in less than 8 hours You went from being happy to seeing me to cancelling the date. But you came over anyway out of obligation or guilt. I knew you were seeing another guy because you looked unhappy and, NO, your bother was not texting you at my place in which you claim---that was your new lover that was texting you. You were so closed off why did you insult me like that? The fact that you met another guy is your choice, but why not have the guts to tell me? Next time be honest with others and you will get the respect you deserve. No need to reply to my text --just want you to think about your actions. Good luck"

 

[BeExcellent]

Well that stinks. Bummer.

Seriously don't send her the text.

You'll feel better perhaps but it isn't accomplishing anything but making you look bothered and affected. You are better than this. Sometimes writing something out helps you vent but many times it is best not to send and let the other person know they got to you. Come here and scream at us, but honestly don't send her anything. Let it drop altogether. She isn't going to take away a lesson. She is more likely to show it off and laugh at you behind your back.

Don't give her the satisfaction.

 

[Asmodeus]

Don't do it. Do not send that text. Ignore that girl... Trust me on this... You send that she only sees it as your desperation. If you ignore her you show her that she had no effect on you, that you understand that she was not important and that you deserved better.
She was a liar, possibly manipulating you and do you even seriously want to waste any more time even reflecting about her?
I do not understand the "connection" not in my capacity. But I do understand pain and resentment when I see it. You are hurt, you are angry. You want to show her your anger, show her how she hurt you.
But she is not going to care. She already shown you that she does not when she left you.
You will find someone better than her. In fact it is good you did not enter into a LTR with a person so mercurial that she can dump you at the drop of a hat, and one who likely was manipulating you too. Therefore, I assume that you got off easy... Had that continued it would have been even worse for you.

 

[LiveFreeX]

Send her a slumdog thank you letter and get your ass to mars.

 

[Jack Hensy]

I wont send it. Her name is Lisa.

I just don't understand women. I feel like we have to play this poker game with them.(Don't show your cards, keep yourself guarded, be clever in playing a card, think about your hand and how to play it).
How does a woman go from 100% interest to 0% interest in less than 8 hours after 2 weeks of dating? How not to be emotionally manipulated next time?

I will send her a bogus text tonight acting like I just had sex with another woman and accidently slip it to her ..."hey trish, I left my watch on your bed stand, I will pick it up tomorrow. Thanks for a good time babe"

 

[Glumix]

I will send her a bogus text tonight acting like I just had sex with another woman and accidently slip it to her ..."hey brenda, I left my watch on your bed stand, I will pick it up tomorrow. Thanks for a good time babe"

This is completely moronic... You will just make you a loser.

She didn't go from 100% to 0%. She went from 1% to 0%. YOU thought it was 100% but you just didn't read her correctly.

 

[BeExcellent]

Please don't. It cheapens you. She has insulted your ego. Let it go. Flush her out of your mind altogether! Go lift, go wear yourself out running, go box, go do some sprints at the beach, go do whatever you do. Physically work the "mad" out of you. Know what? It's Saturday night. Go work out, and then get dressed and go out. Go to a place with great food and have dinner alone at the bar. Smile. Be. Have a ****tail or a great glass of wine. Put away your phone & converse with whoever is seated or standing nearby. Find the hottest venue in your area and fly solo. Relax and enjoy yourself. You might just end up having an enjoyable evening.

 

[Asmodeus]

I see a reflection a bit... A mirror... Here is something you should learn. Some people.. They are not fully together. They seem perfect but that often hides a darker nature. She sounds completely unattached, no guilt no empathy... As if she has possibly got some DT/psychopath tendencies. Maybe... we are 4% of the population.
But anyway, if she is a psychopath or has DT tendencies than your little text will only give her a bit of sadistic pleasure in knowing she still is occupying your head and that she did some damage, either that or she is completely detached from you and would not give a **** how you feel either way and she will feel no guilt.
Believe me... Stay away from people like that... They destroy relationships, are parasitic, and leave a trail of broken hearts in their wake.

 

[CMNILS87]

Nooooooooooo. Don't do any of that. You got rejected and your brain is in damage control mode. Go workout or go get drinks with friends and chill and vent a bit. But sending that text shows you're really hurt and she got to you. A DJ would show indifference and continue on. You really think this is the girl for you for a LTR or are you butt hurt that there's no more sex coming from her? Look....I dated a chick last month and she flat out told me she was picking another guy. Was like ok.... Now a month later she's blowing up her Facebook about "fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me". All that passive aggressive crap when a girl gets rejected from her first choice. I did nothing but chuckle at the fact she got gamed and I moved on.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Considering what happened and your status I suggest you to avoid any contact and DELETE her number because Im sure that even if we all tell you not to write her, sooner or later you will, DONT!

You will feel even more frustrated and angry at her no answer or condescending one, so delete all the contacts you have and move on, consider yourself lucky that you skipped a mine early one with minum damage.

 

[Jack Hensy]

Great points. I just deleted her number. Problem solved.

 

[CMNILS87]

Jackie boy...... It's over dude. No need to rant and nitpick all the problems with her and her issues and insecurities. It's showing you're insecure. You got rejected, now your ego is trying to find reasons to reject her after the fact. You say all relationships are bad or kinda moot. This is on you man. We're here to chit chat, but this is inner game issues. Focus on you....workout, more hobbies, whatever. The absolute last thing you should've ever done was get into a text fight, tell her to date other men, and call her Lisa lunatic. Literal face palm dude. Showed her how pissed and out of control you are right now. Focus on you and take a break from women.