Considering breaking no contact. Think I may have acted irrationally..

[gimmeyofonenumba]

I had withdrew contact unintentionally and it worked like a charm. She chased me. I got upset at her after we'd be texting to make plans and she'd just stop the Convo. That along with other red flags encouraged me to next her, and sent her a no hard feelings, let's go our seperate ways text. Part of me did it hoping she'd reply apologizing or trying to chase me. I think I may have been too harsh with my text. Or maybe she just felt the same way as well. Opinions?

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Short answer: this is why it's better to make a PHONE CALL when making plans versus text messaging - that way you can make all the plans at once and get instant responses vs. having messages suddenly stop without knowing the reason (driving while talking and suddenly saw a cop? phone died? disinterested? who knows??).

Also, don't ever, EVER play the whole "I'll send this message hoping she'll have a certain response" text. I had an ex send me a text saying "this relationship isn't working out, I think it's best if we not be together." To which I replied: "um... ok." I found out later she was expecting me to do the same thing you're expecting this girl to do - unfortunately, she doesn't have your script in her hands, so she's not going to know this is what you wanted her to do.

And yes, you over-reacted - even if she wasn't interested, it would have been better to find out by CALLING her for a date and having her either ignore your calls or hit you with "I'm busy" and not give a counter-offer to find out her true interest vs. trying to play some "response to message" game. Even if you think she's showing lack of interest, you NEVER COME ACROSS AS BUTT-HURT, which you did in your "nexting" message.

 

[gimmeyofonenumba]

Appreciate the response. Yes. I prefer phone calls over text. I tried calling her once when we first started talking, she was way more responsive to texting. Looking back calling would have been best. What's done is done. What do you recommend I do now?

 

[Yewki]

Opinions?

On to the next one.

 

[VladPatton]

Next time just Next her without texting (or calling) a reason why. Something in your gut is telling you to do so and you are more than likely correct. Either way, it's your decision and you owe no one an explanation.

 

[El Payaso]

What a bunch of rubbish. Calling or texting or facebooking or tweeting or snail mail does NOT make a difference if the girl is not interested or has lost interest.

A few weeks ago, I had a date scheduled with a girl. Called her to ask for her address. She didn't pick up. Texted her a few hours later asking for it. Still no response. So I did the logical thing and just didn't contact her again.

It doesn't matter what method of communication you use. If the girl is not interested, she won't respond. SIMPLE.

If a girl has high interest and you write her a snail mail letter, she will respond to you faster than the guy who called and she has zero interest in.

Once again, calling, texting or whatever doesn't matter if she doesn't give two $hits about you. Stop perpetuating this rubbish about calling > texting.