"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Alright, so I'm really confused right now. I think I did something pretty stupid.

There is this girl in one of my classes, we flirt like everyday. She just like comes to me, all the time. Sits by me, then like massively flirts with me. (Holding hands, wresting her head on me.. blah blah) I have been messing with this girl for awhile. Well, I wanted to ask her out, but I was being a little panzy about it. Which I really regret. Anyway, she brought up the subject. She was like "So some kids in my 3rd hour were saying we were cute yesterday (holding hands) and asked me if we were going out." I was just looked her at her, really didn't have anything to say about it. Then later, I wrote "You know what they said in 3rd hour?" on the computer (We were both sitting on computers, we were in a journalism class) and writing notes on word ahaha. She was like yeah. Then I was like "Well, maybe we should go out so. So you can be my ***** full time." and she was like "How about no" but she was joking. Then she was like "How about you be my *****". LOl, now normally I wouldn't let that slide, but I couldn't think of anything clever to say. So I was like "Alright, I'll be your *****." then she was like "So that means you're going to clean my house and do what I say?" I told her no lol. So i made up for it? But yeah, then we went back to flirting. I don't know if we're going out or not. I'm confused about it all. That happened on thursday, and she wasn't at school on friday, so it's not like I could check and make sure. What do you guys think? Do you think we're going out? I know I shouldn't have been such a ***** about it, and should of just asked her point blank. Oh well, I learned my lesson. Advice/guidance? I think this girls interest level in me is pretty high, but I always see her flirting with so many other guys. And I have heard it from other people. But I think I'm like at the top of the game, the other guys are chumps. But how should I handle this? Everything seems akward now. heh
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ok bro tanx for coming off as a panzy...

you actually agreed to be her b1tch...WHY?!

anyways, the worst thing ever, from my experience is to ask a girl out because of other things for example u asked her out because ppl in 3rd hour said you two were cute.

Who gives a sh!t. You shouldve answered "ya i here that about every girl whose next to me" anyways...

back to asking her out, just plain and simply ask her out. For instance say Hey this upcoming week come with me to ***** w/e"

As for the whole b1tch thing, im still annoyed by the fact that you actually agreed to that, even though i was a big joke and flirt in high school ide turn the tables on her no matter wat.

Anyways if ur lucky and she hasnt lost intrest in you, turn the tables around and bring your manhood out.

peace
 

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Dude, I know.
I stated it was a panzy move from the beginning. But I am not a _panzy_ myself.

I had this girl do anything I wanted to. And I showed her a lot of manliness in the past. This was just a one time thing. She would even get upset when she didn't get her way, and I didn't care. If she told me she didnt want to talk to me (jokingly or even not) I would just simply move away and talk with another girl. It was kind of funny, because she would be calling me back in not less than 2 mins later. I had this girl whipped, and I'm pretty sure I still do. I may have lost some manly points, but I can get them back. I already feel like an idiot, so I don't need anymore decouragement.

The funny thing is, I don't even want to go out with her now. The fact I found out from so many people about the guys she flirts with, just turns me off. The only thing is, I don't know if we're going out. I don't want her to think we are going out, then ignore her, and seem like a total **** bf. But then again, if she thinks we'e not, I still want to keep the door open, just incase I need some pvssy later.
 

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..then juss go on with what youve been doing, but chill/flirt with other girls at the same time give her bits and pieces of attention.

Talk about other girls, yet still once in a while make a move on her.

it shouldnt be that hard to have a girl think you 2 arent going out and still have her for pvssy later on.

But then again i mite be the only one good at this mind game crap...

:crazy:
 

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Lol, normally I am pretty good at this. Thats why I havent been on this site for awhile. I didn't need it.

I guess we all slip up once in awhile right.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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