confronting a pseudo-thug

[Jay-X]

Ok guys, here's my situation:


Every time there's a long school break (Christmas, Spring Break and Summer Break), I go to the same town, which I really love (I have a really nice house right before the beach).
Last summer, I had long hair and I sometimes noticed a bunch of guys yelling at me "hey longhair, don't run with that bicycle".
I used to get a little pissed off but I never reacted.
During Xmas break, I didn't have any problem with them.
Things got worse during Spring Break, when I went there again. I had my hair cut, so nobody called me like that. Anyway, a evening, I was talking via mobile with my girlfriend, while walking down the street. I came across 3 guys (dunno if they were the same who insulted me a year before), but I didn't even notice them, until one of them fakes a kick towards me. I said:

"honey, wait a moment" and I turned off the call.

I went to the guy and said "what's the matter?", he just answered "who knows you? go away"

i laughed at him and went away.


Then, another night, I was with my brother (it was about 1 pm and we were having a walk).
We passed in front of the local elementary school and we heard "hey pricks" and other insults. We saw there were like 15-20 guys in there, so we just said "shut up faggots" and went away.
Ten minutes later, we met them again and one of them yelled at us "come here, d1ckheads". My brother answered:

"ok, i'm coming if you come here by yourself, b1tch"

They suddenly stopped insulting us and went away.


Then, the morning after, I was alone and I met the guy who had faked a kick towards me. I stared at him, while walking and he started a "conversation":

- what are you lookin at?
- you were one of those faggots who insulted me yesterday eve?
- What then?
- Then nothing, you're a faggot
- Go away or I'll smash you
- Come here, I'm ready
- Go away, you will regret

I started to walk towards him, but he kept refusing to fight, so I let it go.


Here's my question:

by the end of july, I'm going there again, but since last time I have gained 6kgs of muscle and I look more intimidating. What do you suggest that I should do if I meet that guy again?
Should I be the one starting sh1t? Should I just stare at him until he says something? Or should I even avoid his eyes?
What if there are 3 or more guys rather than him alone?

 

[Visitant]

An intense scowl and dry wit can do wonders, while not making any openly aggressive gestures.

The psuedo-thug and the real thug can be differentiated by control. The real thug knows that actions speak louder than words, and is more concerned with control over self and environment, as opposed to just presenting an image.

Chances are these people are hoping for some kind of fight or dissention, so naturally their mindset reflects this. Stage the game in such a way that the controlled and composed have the ground over the insecure 'hardass', while keeping interactions within your spectrum of control and disallowing anyone from taking a shot at you without simultaneously looking stupid and therefore taking a shot at themselves.

Fight or no, do as you will. remember, unless you totally break someone, they will cause problems for you in the future. Either ignore, or go in for the kill.

 

[biker_gixxer]

What do you suggest that I should do if I meet that guy again?

Nothing bro, sit back and do your thing. Keep one eye on him so you don't get blind sided, but keep your cool.

You've been calling him out and all he does is 'talk'. What does this tell you?

 

[spider_007]

I personally like to TOTALY IGNORE PEOPLE, and it does wonders. For some reason thug wanabes feel the need to prove that they are THE SH1T. I take a look at them once to see if they are a reall threat or not. Eather way I ignore them. It's not that im afraid, it's that i know that it's usless. They'll never shut up, and if I kik their ass, they'll get their buddies..... and you got a whole war on your hands, just because they are stuburn insecure idiots who feel the need to prove them selfs. Only once I broke that rule. I was walking down the hall (highschool) and some guy called me a name (this was like a 10th time), I turned around and slamed hi head against the locker. He was totally suprised, and DIDN'T DO IT AGAIN.

Another thing about fighting is; CONFIDENCE IS EVERYTHING. not ****yness. if a guy starts running toword you (wants to beat you up) DO NOT BACK AWAY. move toward him, and take a stand. It will totally confuse them..........

 

[Alpine]

If you want to stop it dead.

Identify the ring leader.

Isolate him and subject him to intense physical pain that will leave no evidence.

You will find that there are no retaliations, in fact they may all start trying to be friendly with you.

I do not recommend the above.