Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Confident When Not At Best?

612_Da_Playa

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Is confidence correlated with how we look? If you just woke up outta bed with bad breath, your is unkept, your clothes aren't ironed, do you still approach or is it the whole package of things? Such as I know I can get her number because my hair is cut, i have some fresh clothes on, and I'm a student in college. Do you still approach when you're not at your best?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Night Owl

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612_Da_Playa said:
Is confidence correlated with how we look? If you just woke up outta bed with bad breath, your is unkept, your clothes aren't ironed, do you still approach or is it the whole package of things? Such as I know I can get her number because my hair is cut, i have some fresh clothes on, and I'm a student in college. Do you still approach when you're not at your best?
My grandma always said to look you best all the time as you never know who you might meet even if you are just popping around the corner to the local 24/7 store - and she was right..

She also said never go fishing off the company pier - she was right again !!

Looking good and confidence go hand in hand - make the effort
 

zerocelcius

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Good Question.

I believe the way I feel has a lot to do with how I come across to others. I feel better about my self after I have taken a shower put on some clothes that make me feel like myself and a dab of smell good. I worry less when I am comfortable with myself and my appearance.

If I take the time to look the way I want and I am happy with myself. Than I did all I could and if somebody doesn't like it, than they have the problem not me.

I wouldn’t lose my confidence if I wasn’t so fresh and so clean.

It would be like talking to somebody and wondering if your breath stinks. You would have it in the back of your mind along with wishing you had some gum.

It would be more of a distraction than anything else.

So in regards to me, and me only, yes confidence is correlated with how I look.
 

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Your appearance and how you feel DEFINITELY affects your confidence. The more comfortable you are with yourself the more outgoing you're gonna be with other people.

Kinda similar when they say love yourself before loving other people.
 
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