"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Confident BL = Disintrested

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Alright maybe I'm just pointing out the obvious but I just wanted to get the thought of some of the people on the forum. Most of the dating gurus have advised us to adjust our bl to project confidence. Ironically a lot of the things they tell us to create this projection (leaning back, not smiling to much if at all, keeping your head up) are similar to the bl signs that tell us a girl is disintrested. Which brings me to my next observation, we have been advised that at least at the start to act disintrested. My questions are as follows...

1. Can you mess up a girls reading (since girls are like 10x more naturally intuned to bl than we are) on you by switching up your bl to keep them guessing?

2. Does the advice to present yourself as confident and acting disintrested go hand in hand, or am I going off on a tangent?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My bad. bl means Body Language
 
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Oh, such a novice abb., I can't believe I didn't pick it up.

Alright maybe I'm just pointing out the obvious but I just wanted to get the thought of some of the people on the forum. Most of the dating gurus have advised us to adjust our bl to project confidence. Ironically a lot of the things they tell us to create this projection (leaning back, not smiling to much if at all, keeping your head up) are similar to the bl signs that tell us a girl is disintrested.
Yes, but the body language we display means something else as compared to a girl displaying the same body language. Personally..I would rather not stand there looking rugged/cool/confident, I wouldn't want to approach a girl displaying the same thing right? Get the hell out there and enjoy yourself! Onwards..

Which brings me to my next observation, we have been advised that at least at the start to act disintrested. My questions are as follows...

1. Can you mess up a girls reading (since girls are like 10x more naturally intuned to bl than we are) on you by switching up your bl to keep them guessing?
If you do the same thing every day, will anything dramatic change. Not likely.
Switch up your day, you should know the answer ;)

2. Does the advice to present yourself as confident and acting disintrested go hand in hand, or am I going off on a tangent?
It's relatively newbie advice, just to get them all thinking 'I'm the sh!t'. Sure, it helps, but if you dont' change, it will lose its effectiveness very quickly. The point is, adpat your body language to your own personality, have some fun and change it up :)
 
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