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Confidence in confidence, killing fear

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Don Juan
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In my opinion the most important thing about this site is that it says confidence works, and any guy can eventually score with confidence. This is so important because it gives confidence by its statement alone. If I want a confidence booster, I just read some stuff on this site. Even most of the stuff on the site is BS, it is valuable because by having confidence in confidence gives you confidence. And confidence makes you aproach girls - even if your style is not up to snuff, talking to three girls instead of one tripples your chances of scoring.

On approach to take is: "If I need confidence to succeed, and I don't have confidence in the first place, how can I ever get confident?" Another approach, which I get out of this site is, "All I need is confidence? Allright, lets go!"

Related to this, I have an idea of how to overcome fear of going up to girls. When I'm afraid of something I repeat (in my mind) the mantra of the Bene Gesserit from the Dune books: "I will face my fear I will let it pass though me!" (Leto says it best in Children of Dune, go here and watch the Preview Trailer: "Eternity")

In my mind, doing this involves a few things. First, you face your fear head-on. Then you defy it. Then you use the exhileration you get from defying it to boost your crazy now-or-never confidence.

Instead of being afraid of fear, welcome it, because then you can use it to your advantage. Then sometimes the fear doesn't even come because its knows you will just shoot it down. And this is OK, because you've got something much more fun to do than shoot down fear - talk to a hot girl.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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