Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Confidence clarified.

Gubby

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Okay, so you're meant to think of yourself as "the sh!t" right? Find it hard? Reality seems to tell you, "who d'ya think you're kidding?"

Well, if you fall short, perhaps you're fat, AFC, nerdy, you smoke and you wish you didn't, you hate your life... yeah, s'gonna be hard to think of yourself as "the sh!t". Right?

No. You've got it wrong. It doesn't matter how you are... there are bums that are ****y as hell and there are rockstars that are insecure. You won't be confident if you lose that weight or get a better job, you'd just find a new excuse.

It's not about self-delusion. Confidence means realising that it doesn't matter if you're *insert shortcoming here*. There's no such thing as inferiority or superiority... we are all equal.

Just stop caring. A fat bum that's cool with himself is far more attractive than someone who's got everything but still doesn't fit into his own skin.

Everyone's capable of having friends, getting chicks, being happy, loving life... EVERYONE. No-one's giving points. Just let go. :)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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