"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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toasttopper1879

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She says i,ve georgeous eyes,that I,ve a stunning arse,cute this n cute that.All these compliments but what does it mean.I,ve never had so many compliments from some girl who hasnt asked me out.
And why does she sit with her legs wide open at me.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Night Time Pimp

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Don't worry about what all of these compliments mean. Don't worry about why she spreads her fine legs in front of you, seemingly begging you to dive in head-first.

Forget about 'why' with all of these compliments and situations. Thrive on the way her words make you FEEL, how they make you respond to her.

Do her compliments and kind words draw you towards her? Do her open legs make you horny? Does she make you want her?

Play it cool on the outside, thank her for her words and tease her about trying to seduce you. Respond to her body language with touching.

Never had so many compliments from a girl who hasn't asked you out? The signs are there my friend. If you are interested...

ASK HER OUT!!
 

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Girls typically don't ask guys out. It's your job. Man up, and do it.
 

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I do play it cool.She compliments and i just agree with her.I give her a compliment back once in a blue moon and she gets excited.I talk to her and she comes alive,even if I talk to her about nothing.She's so curious,always asking what type of girl I'm into.
But she has a boyfriend who she does'nt say much about except that he exists and she wants me to know he exists,probs for her benefit.
We've exchanged numbers but neither of us ever call.Its become awkward.
 

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Haven't called her up yet? Do it....call her. Don't ASK her out, but TELL her that you're going to [insert fun activity here], and see if she'd like to come. If she dosen't, be prepared to do whatever it was anyway so you can tell her about it later (she'll be thinking she should have gone). If she decides to tag along, good! Dosen't sound like she is going to say no though....duh.

Also looks like she's shopping for a new boyfriend. She's not telling you about her boyfriend for her benefit, but to see what your reaction is. How does she react to kino? Do you get a nuclear reaction or does she pull away? My guess is the former, and she's got it for you bad........
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Not quite sure what a nuclear reaction would be like but she doesnt exactly pull away from kino and shes not afraid to touch back.The kino often seems to be mock funfight type touch.
She says her bum looks big(tiny) and her tummys fat(tiny) and its all just a excuse to make me look I think.I'm not sure what reply she wants from me but I usually agree n tell her her arse looks huge n tell her to fetch me a cuppa tea cos she could do with a bit excercise.
 

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Originally posted by toasttopper1879
Not quite sure what a nuclear reaction would be like but she doesnt exactly pull away from kino and shes not afraid to touch back.The kino often seems to be mock funfight type touch.
She says her bum looks big(tiny) and her tummys fat(tiny) and its all just a excuse to make me look I think.I'm not sure what reply she wants from me but I usually agree n tell her her arse looks huge n tell her to fetch me a cuppa tea cos she could do with a bit excercise.
If she really has a boyfriend, she's testing the water. If you bite and ask her out, she wins. She has your approval. Then she can act surprised and say "but?! I have a boyfriend!" and embarass you.

If she only has a boyfriend in her mind, mentioning him is just one of the many obvious tactics she's using to force a move out of you. If you don't make a move very soon, she'll probably give up and act cranky, refusing to give an explanation.

I'd look at her and just say "too bad you have a boyfriend..." and then refuse to elaborate and change the subject. That might force her hand.
 

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So what happened when you suggested that you get together? You have brought it up, right?
 

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I have suggested ideas for get togethers as we both have friends in the same social circles but she seems far to reluctant to commit.Given her a few open ended opportunities to join me out and in but she tends to change the subject.No excuses from her,she just avoids it.
Then she'll remark a few days later how she never see's me out on a saturday night.
She might just be a attention seeker looking for another point to score to add to her list but if so she's putting a lot of bloody hard work into it just to be able to say i asked her out.
 

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Sounds like she's game playing. Not like there not any interest, but if there is, it will be under HER terms. To me that's game playing. I wouln't exert much effort on her.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Bloody hell.When I see this girl today she is really flirty n dirty.Loads of sexual comments which dont embarass me at all and I just throw them back,telling her to stop suggesting sex all the time.Neither of us take offence at the smutty nature of the conversation and I remain ****y all the time.
THen after i,m being ****y n that again she pounces on me n starts a play fight,tickles me etc.I play back until I gently overpower her and she squeels,laughs and runs away.
This reaction came right out the blue but its got me wondering in a good sort of way.I think i'll just cool right off when I next see her just to see what happens.
 

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Originally posted by toasttopper1879
Bloody hell.When I see this girl today she is really flirty n dirty.Loads of sexual comments which dont embarass me at all and I just throw them back,telling her to stop suggesting sex all the time.Neither of us take offence at the smutty nature of the conversation and I remain ****y all the time.
THen after i,m being ****y n that again she pounces on me n starts a play fight,tickles me etc.I play back until I gently overpower her and she squeels,laughs and runs away.
This reaction came right out the blue but its got me wondering in a good sort of way.I think i'll just cool right off when I next see her just to see what happens.
I like women like that. I'm seeing one that's a lot like that, fun times! :up:
 
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