Complicated Situation

[ThatGuyOverThere]

Last year, my roommate had a huge crush on this one girl and ended up falling in love with her (at least he told her he loved her). They had a "thing" that lasted about a couple weeks but he got too needy/clingy so she told him she wanted to just be friends. Well it's nearly a year later and he still hasn't gotten over her, in fact he's goes to counseling every week for depression/alcoholism because of her. She recently broke up with her boyfriend, and hasn't told my roommate because she doesn't want to give him false hope.

I used to have a thing for this girl last year but didn't receive many signals in return and decided to just be friends. Right now I would probably consider her my best friend and she has told me the same thing. However, I've noticed that since she broke up with her boyfriend she's been a lot more flirtatious with me, and she has outright told me she's attracted to me. So far I've mostly ignored these things because of the roommate situation and because I currently have a crush on another girl. Unfortunately this other girl has a boyfriend already down: ), and I've been trying unsuccessfully to get over her the past few weeks (I've been trying to meet other girls but I go to a school with a lot of fugly chicks and this girl is not only pretty hot but also really interesting to talk to, it's difficult finding a good replacement for that). I've tried the "hooking up with random girls" method on the weekend and it somewhat helped but they're still just hook-ups, which is not what I want. My dilemma is, pursuing the first girl could help me in the "getting over it" process, but I obviously don't want to cause my roommate to be further depressed. I feel like a selfish bastard for even considering this, though it sucks that my roommate's inability to get over this girl could be standing in the way of something great - even though now I sound like a hypocrite because I'm having similar problems. :crazy: What to do?

 

[DavenJuan]

Thatguy...

the one thing that i always ask myself, is "which decision will i regret the most...??"

the bigger issue is both of you "crushing" over women who already are in relationships. there are tons of women out there to limit your options to these 2 women.

 

[shortie]

you should check out the situation with her ex. if she is trying to get an ego boost and using you as a rebound (again for an ego boost) then you are in for a troubled ride.

in addition like Daven said, which decision will you regret more? it seems like you dont need the girl more than just to get over your crush. You can find other girls for that purpose, she isnt the only one.