I have learnt a few things in my time as a DJ, the stuff in this post is from hard earned experience tried out through trial and error. If you feel these fit to you then change those things.
My game has been awful these last weeks, me bulking up has changed the rules of the game and I have spent time learning it, I have had much trouble getting used to all the eye contact I get from girls and some guys, I have a reflex from all those years back to instinctivly look away and move away from EC because I was ashamed of myself then. But I have learnt many new things too and I wanted to share my experiences with you.
Here's my collection of newbie mistakes to be avoided:
Thinking they are the sh!t!
Hell lifeforce, this is good to think, I only go for HB9+ because I am a DJ. Pook says to be the prize, do you say pook is wrong? You think you know something shorty?
Yeah I think I know some stuff. If you want to get into what pook says, then he also says to BECOME the great catch. That's what's wrong with you. You highten your standards on your women but you do not do it on yourself. Women don't want skinny guys who looks like holocaust survivors or fat lard asses. They don't want pale guys, they don't want guys who have no sense of style whatsoever, they don't want guys who smell, they don't want guys who look like a pizza in the face, they want a guy who look masculine! If you think otherwise wake the **** up! If you get shot down alot when you approach hot women it is probably because you are ugly.
Another variant of this attitude is just the attitude of being the **** when you look like ****, it is such a turn off. Like I met this girl a while back, 5-6, allthough she looked good she was not THAT good looking. She had the highest demands on everything and she played a role like she thought she was better than she was. Thinking you are better than you are is only a sign of insecurity. If you think you are the **** and you look like **** then people laugh at you behind your back, you may feel DJ but people around you view you as a laughing stock.
Questions Marathon
This is my first thing I learnt I was doing wrong. I approached women and asked them a bunch of questions which they replied, then they didn't ask anything back and I didn't know what to say so I continued to ask. RULE!!! Listen to this! IF A WOMEN DOESN'T SEEM INTERESTED IN YOUR CONVERSATION YOU ARE HAVING OR CONTRIBUTE WITH QUESTIONS THEN SHE IS NOT INTERESTED IN YOU, DUMP HER RIGHT AWAY AND MOVE ON! Do not try to close her or use some DJ technique, she want you to get lost only she is too polite to say it.
Being ****y&A$$hole
****y and funny are fun to do. But most people do not know how to do it at all. Being an ******* is not the equality as being C&F. Let me explain, C&F is when you say something ****y and are funny at the same time but you also make sure you don't hurt her EGO on the way. Saying stuff like "I like your clothes, do you know of any 2nd hand clothes store in the area?" is just plain dumb, this is NEGHIT, NOT C&F. How do you think a friendly girl who has worked with her appearance feel? Do she deserves this ****? How would you feel if some girl said something like that to you? Me personally would dis her because I don't hang out with *******s. So donät ruin your game with this I have already done it for my part and half a dussin of you guys.
Crying to the hunchback of notre dame
Yeah disney really know how to make movies don't they. In real life do you think a girl would **** something like that? No way! If you are one of those who think looks do not matter for DJing because some ugly dude laid a nice looking girl then you are WRONG! The girl was probably horny or something. Good looks are more effective than any technique you can have, when you look good women have a voice in their head that says... "mmm, I like that body, I wouldn't mind having his strong hands over my body and surrender to him".
A variation of this is to try to use techniques to get women interested (NLP/SS/The System/etc...). Time to wake up again, I spent a good two and a half year in this trap looking up techniques to do to get fake confidence. But in the end it didn't pay off any good. I would have had more success to say "Hey wanna ****?" than with those techniqes.
Hitting on two many chicks
If you are at a place where there are lots of chicks, do not ever hit on a chick in front of another chick who you want to hit if this hit goes bad. This is called Social Proof or dis-proof because people will imply that there are something wrong on you if she reject you. Having this mindset the next girl will look for errors in you and she WILL probably find it unless she is turned on by your looks.
Getting comfortable
Every DJ I believe come to a phase of their DJing when they have experience under their belt and they stop hitting on chicks for some reason. They become more philosohpical about it. They loose their fearlessness and become pussies. And as a defense of the DJ-mind they think stuff like "I could lay that chick if I wanted.", "If I had time I'd show you how to do it", etc... But in reality they would be scared ****less. You have to face yourself and start again.
Fear of the unknown
The difference between a successful DJ and a unsuccessful one is the ability to be bold. To say stuff at the right time even if you are trembling and have a supernova in your gut. You are nervous because you fear the womans reaction. Let me tell you, I have been some really stupid stuff in my days as a DJ and still haven't been slapped (too many times
). Everyone chickens out sometime but try to think about it if you chicken out too much.
Hitting on women you know you can't get
If you feel a voice in your head that you can't get this woman then you are usually correct if you have some experience. If you are fat or skinny and hit on a perfect model than your chance are slim because she is much more feminine than you are masculine. You will get interest from girls in your range and the more you improve the better looking girls will look and lesser looking girls will start to ignore you! (It's awesome!!!) The more masculine you become the better girls you'll get naturally.
Being Fake Alpha-Male
It's pathetic to se some guys believing the alpha myth, yeah sure women like dominance and masculinity, but this should not be an act! If you are faking then you will only become a laughing stock. I have noticed I have become much more dominant and masculine by lifting, it comes natural and I don't think "Hey, is this alpha?". So all you pathetic guys pretending, stop doing it or start lift and feel the effect of testosterone boost after squats and deadlifts.
Hurting the womans EGO
You may believe it is good if the girl know how many other girls you have, trust me, it is not! The fact that she is special should be the first priority until she get's involved emotionally with you. Before that she will feel that you can hurt her ego if she must compete and can get other guys who don't do this. When she is emotionally involved and find out about competition then she will try to seduce you if she is attracted enough.
Overanalyze
This will lead to oneitis and you will not be able to get anything good out of it. Do never try to understand what a woman tell you, if you wonder if she is interested consider her actions, do she responds to calls, do she want to meet you? If you answer no then she is not interested.
Treating average girls like hot girls
Face it, most of you probably don't hit on the models (including myself) so some of the stuff here is overkill for some girls. Using neghits, too much challenge and stuff is not good with the average girls IMO. They respond to compliments because they don't get as many as other good looking girls and they are most often not as picky and will tolerate a little more AFC stuff than the ones above. Ugly women respond to most stuff because they are desperate and have strange personalitites. Ugly-pickygirls are the worst, they think they deserve good looking guys because people have inflated their egos. Damn AFCS!
Me moving from the average to the little more hot girls has made all the difference in my game, changed it totaly (therefore it has sucked for a while). Be more receptive to how stuff works (JUDGE BY ACTIONS!!!) instead of what is being said in here. This was how the orginal DJ's of this site learnt the stuff, they tested it out and they watched the feedback. Most new DJs are spoiled and do not want to learn the stuff out there. This is closly connected to...
...Don't be afraid of the word AFC!
Some stuff that AFC's do actually can work pretty well in some instances. When two people say the same thing it can be understood in many different way. A ripped 190 lbs guy who says something will get another response than a 140 lbs skinny guy or a 220 lbs 30% BF guy. No don't flame me, I do not want you to limit yourself because you are afraid to be called AFCs. Giving flowers can be OK, and some other stuff will work too, try it out and adapt the stuff that works, the difference between a DJ and a AFC is that the AFC never changes his approach.
And lastly...
Don't overrate or censor stuff when you do it here, keep it real
Try to judge girls you hit on by societies standards, if you find her to be an 8 society can rate her as a 4 or as a 9. Don't try to seem better than you are by removing stuff from the convo you are ashamed off if you post convo. this will make new people believe they are bad and feel bad and no one will learn from your mistakes.
There you have it, hoped this helped you. Comments and questions are welcome.
LIFEFORCE
My game has been awful these last weeks, me bulking up has changed the rules of the game and I have spent time learning it, I have had much trouble getting used to all the eye contact I get from girls and some guys, I have a reflex from all those years back to instinctivly look away and move away from EC because I was ashamed of myself then. But I have learnt many new things too and I wanted to share my experiences with you.
Here's my collection of newbie mistakes to be avoided:
Thinking they are the sh!t!
Hell lifeforce, this is good to think, I only go for HB9+ because I am a DJ. Pook says to be the prize, do you say pook is wrong? You think you know something shorty?
Yeah I think I know some stuff. If you want to get into what pook says, then he also says to BECOME the great catch. That's what's wrong with you. You highten your standards on your women but you do not do it on yourself. Women don't want skinny guys who looks like holocaust survivors or fat lard asses. They don't want pale guys, they don't want guys who have no sense of style whatsoever, they don't want guys who smell, they don't want guys who look like a pizza in the face, they want a guy who look masculine! If you think otherwise wake the **** up! If you get shot down alot when you approach hot women it is probably because you are ugly.
Another variant of this attitude is just the attitude of being the **** when you look like ****, it is such a turn off. Like I met this girl a while back, 5-6, allthough she looked good she was not THAT good looking. She had the highest demands on everything and she played a role like she thought she was better than she was. Thinking you are better than you are is only a sign of insecurity. If you think you are the **** and you look like **** then people laugh at you behind your back, you may feel DJ but people around you view you as a laughing stock.
Questions Marathon
This is my first thing I learnt I was doing wrong. I approached women and asked them a bunch of questions which they replied, then they didn't ask anything back and I didn't know what to say so I continued to ask. RULE!!! Listen to this! IF A WOMEN DOESN'T SEEM INTERESTED IN YOUR CONVERSATION YOU ARE HAVING OR CONTRIBUTE WITH QUESTIONS THEN SHE IS NOT INTERESTED IN YOU, DUMP HER RIGHT AWAY AND MOVE ON! Do not try to close her or use some DJ technique, she want you to get lost only she is too polite to say it.
Being ****y&A$$hole
****y and funny are fun to do. But most people do not know how to do it at all. Being an ******* is not the equality as being C&F. Let me explain, C&F is when you say something ****y and are funny at the same time but you also make sure you don't hurt her EGO on the way. Saying stuff like "I like your clothes, do you know of any 2nd hand clothes store in the area?" is just plain dumb, this is NEGHIT, NOT C&F. How do you think a friendly girl who has worked with her appearance feel? Do she deserves this ****? How would you feel if some girl said something like that to you? Me personally would dis her because I don't hang out with *******s. So donät ruin your game with this I have already done it for my part and half a dussin of you guys.
Crying to the hunchback of notre dame
Yeah disney really know how to make movies don't they. In real life do you think a girl would **** something like that? No way! If you are one of those who think looks do not matter for DJing because some ugly dude laid a nice looking girl then you are WRONG! The girl was probably horny or something. Good looks are more effective than any technique you can have, when you look good women have a voice in their head that says... "mmm, I like that body, I wouldn't mind having his strong hands over my body and surrender to him".
A variation of this is to try to use techniques to get women interested (NLP/SS/The System/etc...). Time to wake up again, I spent a good two and a half year in this trap looking up techniques to do to get fake confidence. But in the end it didn't pay off any good. I would have had more success to say "Hey wanna ****?" than with those techniqes.
Hitting on two many chicks
If you are at a place where there are lots of chicks, do not ever hit on a chick in front of another chick who you want to hit if this hit goes bad. This is called Social Proof or dis-proof because people will imply that there are something wrong on you if she reject you. Having this mindset the next girl will look for errors in you and she WILL probably find it unless she is turned on by your looks.
Getting comfortable
Every DJ I believe come to a phase of their DJing when they have experience under their belt and they stop hitting on chicks for some reason. They become more philosohpical about it. They loose their fearlessness and become pussies. And as a defense of the DJ-mind they think stuff like "I could lay that chick if I wanted.", "If I had time I'd show you how to do it", etc... But in reality they would be scared ****less. You have to face yourself and start again.
Fear of the unknown
The difference between a successful DJ and a unsuccessful one is the ability to be bold. To say stuff at the right time even if you are trembling and have a supernova in your gut. You are nervous because you fear the womans reaction. Let me tell you, I have been some really stupid stuff in my days as a DJ and still haven't been slapped (too many times
). Everyone chickens out sometime but try to think about it if you chicken out too much. Hitting on women you know you can't get
If you feel a voice in your head that you can't get this woman then you are usually correct if you have some experience. If you are fat or skinny and hit on a perfect model than your chance are slim because she is much more feminine than you are masculine. You will get interest from girls in your range and the more you improve the better looking girls will look and lesser looking girls will start to ignore you! (It's awesome!!!) The more masculine you become the better girls you'll get naturally.
Being Fake Alpha-Male
It's pathetic to se some guys believing the alpha myth, yeah sure women like dominance and masculinity, but this should not be an act! If you are faking then you will only become a laughing stock. I have noticed I have become much more dominant and masculine by lifting, it comes natural and I don't think "Hey, is this alpha?". So all you pathetic guys pretending, stop doing it or start lift and feel the effect of testosterone boost after squats and deadlifts.
Hurting the womans EGO
You may believe it is good if the girl know how many other girls you have, trust me, it is not! The fact that she is special should be the first priority until she get's involved emotionally with you. Before that she will feel that you can hurt her ego if she must compete and can get other guys who don't do this. When she is emotionally involved and find out about competition then she will try to seduce you if she is attracted enough.
Overanalyze
This will lead to oneitis and you will not be able to get anything good out of it. Do never try to understand what a woman tell you, if you wonder if she is interested consider her actions, do she responds to calls, do she want to meet you? If you answer no then she is not interested.
Treating average girls like hot girls
Face it, most of you probably don't hit on the models (including myself) so some of the stuff here is overkill for some girls. Using neghits, too much challenge and stuff is not good with the average girls IMO. They respond to compliments because they don't get as many as other good looking girls and they are most often not as picky and will tolerate a little more AFC stuff than the ones above. Ugly women respond to most stuff because they are desperate and have strange personalitites. Ugly-pickygirls are the worst, they think they deserve good looking guys because people have inflated their egos. Damn AFCS!
Me moving from the average to the little more hot girls has made all the difference in my game, changed it totaly (therefore it has sucked for a while
). Be more receptive to how stuff works (JUDGE BY ACTIONS!!!) instead of what is being said in here. This was how the orginal DJ's of this site learnt the stuff, they tested it out and they watched the feedback. Most new DJs are spoiled and do not want to learn the stuff out there. This is closly connected to......Don't be afraid of the word AFC!
Some stuff that AFC's do actually can work pretty well in some instances. When two people say the same thing it can be understood in many different way. A ripped 190 lbs guy who says something will get another response than a 140 lbs skinny guy or a 220 lbs 30% BF guy. No don't flame me, I do not want you to limit yourself because you are afraid to be called AFCs. Giving flowers can be OK, and some other stuff will work too, try it out and adapt the stuff that works, the difference between a DJ and a AFC is that the AFC never changes his approach.
And lastly...
Don't overrate or censor stuff when you do it here, keep it real
Try to judge girls you hit on by societies standards, if you find her to be an 8 society can rate her as a 4 or as a 9. Don't try to seem better than you are by removing stuff from the convo you are ashamed off if you post convo. this will make new people believe they are bad and feel bad and no one will learn from your mistakes.
There you have it, hoped this helped you. Comments and questions are welcome.
LIFEFORCE
