"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Cold Weather Date Ideas

R

Rubato

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Now that it's officially freezing cold outside (literally), I've been working on coming up with a list of good date ideas for the season. I'd like to see what ideas you all have too. I'm trying to avoid common cliche things like going to the movies/dinner/mall, watching a movie, ect. Those can be incorporated, but I like to do new things myself and differentiate myself from other people. So far:

-Indoor rock climbing

-Cooking a meal together... and not like Mac and Cheese... something new/exotic or a recipe you invented yourself. (or just making her cook for you... seriously)

-Ice Skating

-Building a fire, if you have a place to do so

-Ice fishing (I've never done this with a girl before, but if you know how, why not?)

-Hunting (Same as above. I think going out with a girl with a large gun and demonstrating your ability to kill another animal, skin it, and cook it would appeal to her primal instincts and show that you're a dominant man. Again, seriously.)

-I did the whole museum thing last spring, and I didn't care so much for that. I personally enjoyed it, but I'm a weird intellectual. Unless I found a girl I thought wasn't an idiot, I would probably save this for a non-first several dates date.

-I also hate bowling, but that's a commonly suggested one.

-Include her in a hobby of yours. Like, I could have the girl come over and help me make the bookcase I'm working on or bring her clarinet over and play the piano with her.

-Visiting a winery.

-Board/card games (seriously. Think about Pook's little kid frame)

-Skiing/snowboarding/sledding/building a snowman (if there's snow, of course. Or you have the money to go to a ski lodge)

-Learn something new with her... Like if you don't know how to make a bookcase, develop an idea of how to do so, get what you need and tell her to come over and do it with you.

-Photograph. Go for a drive and find pretty things/landscapes to take pictures of. Take a few pictures together. Send them to her.

-Toboggan Chutes

-Get a coloring book and crayons.

-Go to the pet store (I know this kind of sounds like the mall, but I think it's different, even if the pet store is at the mall. What girl wouldn't like to go in to a pet store and pet all the dogs/cats? If I was dating her, it wouldn't be cats though)

-Volunteer at a shelter/soup kitchen/charity event.

-Bundle up and take a nature hike.

That's all for now. I much prefer "action" dates to the crap most guys do. I would rather take a girl to the grocery store with me than I would to a coffee shop anymore.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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