"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Cold shoulder from GF

JimmyBizzle

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So how would you deal with getting a cold shoulder and a freeze out from your girlfriend? She's obviously pissed or upset about something and when you ask her if anything's wrong she says nothing. But she only does it to you and not her roommates or friends.

I've come upon this several times in my relationship and I just want some opinions on how to handle it to see if I'm dealing with it correctly.
 

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The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

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KontrollerX

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Its a bullsh!t passive aggressive tactic.

I think Desdinova had a good sig quote once for your situation that went something like...

"Trying to reward a woman for bad behavior is like praising your dog for
sh!tting on the carpet".

So if you want to know how to handle it right here is what you do...

Nothing.

If she wants to communicate and express her feelings like an adult rather than a child with the silent treatment you are listening.

Otherwise let her pout until she goes blue in the face.

Apologizing will only make it worse and even if you think you owe her one she's certainly not acting like she deserves it with this lame childish behavior.

She needs to grow up already.
 

JimmyBizzle

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THANK YOU

That is exactly what I've been doing. The second I asked her what was wrong and she said "nothing" I've been acting like that's exactly the case. I'm just ignoring her trying to get under my skin cause it will not work. And I thinks she's coming around. We'll see.
 
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