Cold Reading to pick up chicks?

[I'm Joe Dirt]

I was doing some research on Cold Reading and I thought it may or may not be a cool unqiue way to pick up girls.

Let me first explain what cold reading is by pasting in the Wikipedia definition:

Cold reading is a technique used by salespeople, interrogators, hypnotists, psychics, graphologists, palmists, astrologers, con men etc. to convince another person that they know more about them than they actually do. Generally, the cold reader will make a series of vague statements, will observe the subject's reactions, and then will refine the original statements according to those reactions. The technique is sometimes applied in order to falsely convince an audience that the reader possesses psychic abilities.

Before starting the actual reading, the reader will typically try to elicit cooperation: "I often see images that are a bit unclear and may sometimes mean more to you than to me; if you help, we can together uncover new things about you." Then they may start out with a general statement such as "I sense that you are sometimes insecure, especially with people you don't know very well. Is there something to it?" (see Forer effect) or with a guess that looks more specific than it is: "I see an elderly lady that's close to you, some sadness, and a photo album. Can you make any sense of that?" or "I feel some pain, maybe in the head or in the back." The subject will typically reveal some information with their reply, and the cold reader can continue from there. In general, while most of the words come from the reader, most of the information comes from the subject.

A number of performers have studied the techniques of cold reading and have posed as psychics offering either private fortune-telling sessions or open forum "talking with the dead" sessions in the manner of alleged psychic John Edward. Only after receiving acclaim and applause do they reveal that they needed no psychic power, only a knowledge of psychology and cold-reading. Such performers are known to include Ian Rowland, Mark Edward, Lynne Kelly, Kari Coleman and Derren Brown.

So basically its the technique TV psychics use to feed you b.s. and make you pay good money to see it because you think they're real.

Now how can it be applied to dating?

Well one of the biggest problems for guys I think is when they see a group of girls because groups are very hard to approach, especially if you're with a smaller group of friends or alone.

So I thought, what if one could learn how to do cold readings, walk up to a group of girls, and attempt to do a reading of one of the members of the group. If one got pretty good at doing them and was able to keep up the charade even for a few minutes it would be enough to perhaps break the ice and create an aura of mystery around you. Nothing is more mysterious than the seemingly paranormal!

This could be good for individuals but also for groups as you can do a few minutes of a cold reading per person in the group so you are never required to go too deep into it (and thus run out of general questions and be shown to be a bullsh1tter).

And if your cold reading techniques arent working very well you can always break the tension by saying to the subject you've picked out to do the reading on "I sense your friends think I'm full of sh1t". That could draw some laughs and you can even tell them that you were trying to do a cold reading and get into a discussion of psychics and the paranormal - which are far from everyday conversation topics.

So what do you guys think?

Cold readings: good and unique way to draw mystery around you, show that you are entertaining, and break the ice in groups or even with just one individual or would it never work?

Also for the girls on these forums, what would you think if a guy went up to you and did a psychic routine on you by trying to read your mind or tell you about your past or any other general psychic stuff? Would it be too creepy or would it be a welcome change of pace from "hey baby, I lost my phone number, can I have yours?"


Edit: For the record I don't know how to do cold readings yet as I've just begun research but I want to get some books or something and start learning it over the next few months.

 

[I'm Joe Dirt]

Any thoughts at all on the topic? Anyone?

How popular are psychics these days? How many people believe they have paranormal powers? How many girls would be impressed by a psychic reading from a stranger?

 

[Derek Flint]

You really don't need to do all this crap.

PU is not that complicated.

 

[Black_Italian]

Yeh sure i could see my self walking up to a girl and saying:

"i sence that you havent been with a guy for a wile and you are desperatley looking for one"

"i see a guy with dark skin medium height nice build with a deep voice in bed with you the guy looks alot like me"

Im sure this would work with any girl infact you know what Joe you figured it out. Now all thats left to do is open your own website and teach us all how to get girls you will be worshipped through out the lands.

Or you could just stop talking s**t and giving us your pointless book reviwes and methods.

 

[GrimPhallic]

Dood that is what picking up a girl is - cold reading. We pick up on their replies and body language... Same thing except we arent asking them retarded questions. But I see where this technique could be used to make a girl feel like she has known you for a long time even though she just met you... All you have to do is ask her questions and relate to what she says - not that hard.

 

[08aisaac]

I would have to leave the cold reading to people who feel that seducton has to be complicated.

 

[I'm Joe Dirt]

The whole idea of it would be to pretend like one has paranormal psychic powers, and thus is unique.

Everyone always talks about making a girl keep guessing about you and wonder about you and be mysterious, well I don't think there is a better way to be mysterious than to appear to have psychic powers that she can't explain.

Am I wrong here? Or is being mysterious and seductive involve walking up to a girl and saying "hey b1tch, nice ass, i wanna tap that, can I get your digitz?" (as I suspect Black_Italian does from how he doesn't believe in any techniques that involve thinking before you do). And Black_Italian, no one is forcing you to read my post and there are some people here who like to hear my take on things and my suggestions, so if you don't then thats your problem, just don't read them.

Overall yes, I would think that learning Cold Reading - something that undoubtably will take me a long time to learn - is a waste if used exclusivley for picking up chicks. But I work in sales and politics, and I could see how cold reading techniques would be very useful in all aspects of my life. I just added picking up girls to it because it seems like if I know cold reading why not use it?


Edit: And by cold reading I dont mean "I see a guy who looks like me in your future", I mean doing an honest to goodness psychic reading (not fortune telling).

Also you don't have to approach and get right into the action you can say something like "I've recently discovered I have some paranormal or psychic abilities and I have been trying to meet people I can test out my abilities on. It won't work with friends since I know them too well already, so I was hoping you could help me out and indulge me a little while I see if I can get a reading on you? Would that be okay?" Or something like that. There's gotta be ways to polish this up and make it work.

 

[Q-Pid]

Of course cold readings will work - anything will work. What you say isn't nearly as important as how you say it or when you say it.

 

[Black_Italian]

you go pretend to be a phsycic Joe im sure the ladies will be all over you because your errr "unique"