Cold approach tactics, tips, advice?

[Macaframalama]

I'm just coming from a ltr of around two years and it already seems like so much has changed since I've been single. Honestly, random cold approach has never been my strong suit to begin with. I manage just fine in social settings, groups, parties, etc. so long as I'm given something to bounce off of. My question is what are some of your tactics, tips, openers, subjects to initiate contact? I prefer to keep things as natural as possible. I'm fine with cheesy and not worried about looking dumb, because most of what comes out of my mouth is over the top anyways and I feel it helps me weed out the stick up there a$$ females anyways, but I don't feel comfortable with feeling like I'm fabricating something. I don't have a problem with flirting and building tension once the convo is going, but say for example one of you were to approach a female working or shopping at a department store, how would you approach?

 

[John Constantine]

Best tip : Practice

I'm still a beginner in cold approach but I'm getting better. I say stupid things like, Hi whats your name ? oh cool, you are beautiful, can I have your number ?

I'm doing these easy liner until I'm gonna get more confortable as it's more in the confident, relax attitude than the liner. My ratio is not very good in cold approach right now because I'm still too anxious but I'm getting lucky sometimes, and my looks helps. 3 times out of 4 they're saying : thanks you're very cute but I have a boyfriend. I'm really sorry and then kino me. Maybe they're lying, maybe they're not but who cares, I'M gaining experience

 

[ubercat]

Easiest advice is to start small and get good at talking about what is around you. And making s*** up. Another principle is that people care about what's happened to them in the last couple of hours.

OK so how might this all look in practice. Let's say I've spotted a hot counter demon in a department store. Now she's a counter demon so she has a defined beat so it's easy to get physically close. I'd suggest early in the morning when the shop is just opened so less chance of being interrupted.

So you could start with this is a cool sale. I need to come by more often. What's the best sale you ve being to recently.
Chick. Blah blah
You. But it must b crazy for u guys...
Chick. Blah blah
You. U deserve a treat..we should go get ice cream
When s your break?

And yes I have pulled off many pickups just as easy as this.

Now obviously that's if you are getting some play from her.

If she's just friendly but gives up a personal detail or two.. you say hey I have to get going but was really nice talking to you and hold out your hand for a handshake. Just like you're a really polite guy. Great now kino has been initiated. Pro tip Google pulse handshake. Believe me you will thank me.

Come back another day and say hey I Remember You Sally how s fido (dog) going? Or whatever personal detail you manage to get out of her before. Start chatting and if she is still engaging start with the little touches on the arm and all the other Kino escalation tricks you will find all over sosuave.

Even if you don't get to pick up the counter girl other attractive chicks nearby will have seen you chatting with a hot chick. So now wander over to them and ask their opinion on something to buy for your sister.

See how this works. You create some basic social proof and then leverage it for the next approach. Combine this with having a coffee place in the mall that you go regularly and tip well at and get to know the staff. Now when you pull a chick for an instant date you take her there and gather more social proof. I m sure @deesade and other guys are more into cold approach can help you more than me but anyway this is how I run my game.

I wouldn't go somewhere specifically to do cold approaches too old for that. But I engage chicks in situational approaches as I go about my day. Now I have a long term girlfriend and I'm old school I don't cheat however this keeps my reflexes sharp. And my skills are not lost on my girlfriend. Just the other day she said if we broke up you would replace me the next weekend. Of course I told her she is rare and special but she knows damned well I could.

 

[Macaframalama]

Great advice! So, I thought about it after I posted last night and I think for the most part, I am not aware enough. Of my surroundings, nor the female. Like, I will see she's got a nice ass and pretty face, but all else will be lost. Like if she's just put a ton of effort into her hair or her fragrance, her accessories, etc. So I set out today to practice hyper awareness and it's hot as satan out here in Oklahoma right now and as I was paying at the counter and the conversation swayed towards the heat and I mentioned my a/c in my truck was acting up and she said her was out too. I wasn't fast enough on my feet or I would have said... ,"Well how about if I can fix your a/c, then you can cook me dinner?" Would have kind of been like a fun little bet to think about, gave me an opportunity to save the day, get her number and get her to my house. My wit wasn't quick enough though. So, now I will practice more awareness and quick wit. I'm still a bit shell shocked from this break up I just went through a month ago. No excuses. I'll give it a week and bring up the topic of her car again and slip it in then. On a side note and speaking on quick wit, all of this has reaffirmed why I enjoyed old in the past so much. If anything else, it helps hone and sharpen quick wit. It always has for me in the past anyways. People can say, well old conversation isn't as fast as real-time, but how many world class athletes practice at competition speed?.?. Powerlifters train at a percentage of their maximum lifts, until a competition. Long distance runners run a percentage of a full race during training sessions.

 

[Haze]

I'm just coming from a ltr of around two years and it already seems like so much has changed since I've been single. Honestly, random cold approach has never been my strong suit to begin with. I manage just fine in social settings, groups, parties, etc. so long as I'm given something to bounce off of. My question is what are some of your tactics, tips, openers, subjects to initiate contact? I prefer to keep things as natural as possible. I'm fine with cheesy and not worried about looking dumb, because most of what comes out of my mouth is over the top anyways and I feel it helps me weed out the stick up there a$$ females anyways, but I don't feel comfortable with feeling like I'm fabricating something. I don't have a problem with flirting and building tension once the convo is going, but say for example one of you were to approach a female working or shopping at a department store, how would you approach?

Approach from behind with rope in your pocket and a rag soaked with chloroform.

 

[ubercat]

Yeah I've always loved online dating for the practice too. But you have to combine it with plenty of practice in the real world too. A diet based solely on toxic Netchix will make you jaded pretty quick

 

[Macaframalama]

Approach from behind with rope in your pocket and a rag soaked with chloroform.

LMFAO! Ey, I've never been involved in any situation that drastic. I've been taken from, when I was a teen and I've taken plenty in my time. I'm 6'5"/325 right now. I have no problem influencing people these days with my size. I've bullied and been bullied. At this point in my life in just trying to influence without falsifying who i truly am as a man. With my mind.

 

[Macaframalama]

Yeah I've always loved online dating for the practice too. But you have to combine it with plenty of practice in the real world too. A diet based solely on toxic Netchix will make you jaded pretty quick

True Uber! You were one of the first ever reply to one of my first posts. I'm not a put all of my eggs in one basket type of individual. I'm a cancer though and I'm either wide open or reserved and want to be left to myself. Old isn't my only hustle, but it is an opportunity to run game on anybody and everybody. Idk why I put so much stock into it. Like I need some kind of formal introduction. It's just practice imo and very often the virtual world meets reality.

 

[John Constantine]

Approach from behind with rope in your pocket and a rag soaked with chloroform.

THIS !! You Win the internet

 

[ubercat]

Mate you ll do well. You have the ability to put your ego aside and take on advice to analyze your game and play to your strengths. U also understand the learning principles of progression and chunking. Those abilities separate the winners and losers here.

U ll also notice that the senior posters advise on that level. And sometimes to inspire or challenge to help u reset a limiting beliefs they think u may hold.