Coffee dates are played out

Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Senior Don Juan

Mar 20, 2013

Naughty Ninja said:
Instead of Coffee you can try going to:

Ice Cream

Slot Car racing

Hookah place

Air Hockey

Walking around a mall

Pool

for drinks.

Park. (going on swings, and or picnic, walking)

Take her if you are a gym member as a one time pass to work out and also for some "proof" to other chicks in the gym. (If it doesn't work other chicks who're members will notice you and you may wind up piquing their curiosity in the future.)

Something with a little bit of action and or opportunities to feel each other up.

Coffee is okay but it's getting played out.

excellent post

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.