"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Closer song lyrics are the key to strong inner game.

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"You look as good as the day I met you
I forget just why I left you, I was insane"

These are the lyrics of the girls vocals. I know its just a song but it expresses a very valuable truth. It shows what i have been trying to say for a while. Just because a women dumps you does not mean that you were the issue. American women reject, or go cold on men for all sorts of stupid reasons. This is a fact. They also f*ck men for equally ridiculous reasons. This is the level of capriciousness that you can expect when the average girl has an abundance mentally mixed with hands off parenting. An abundance of anything makes you reckless.

The key is making sure that you are the best you. Make yourself so good that you know for a fact that the issue is not you. Improve yourself to the point that any glaring deficiencies that you have are fixed. This is the tricky part. It is easy to get delusional and say " hey its not me its them" even though you are socially akward and 300lbs. You have to take a very honest look at yourself and make sure that you are a decent catch. After that leave things to the number game. Id say if 20% of attractive girls you go on dates with end up liking you then there is probably nothing wrong with you.

I have had girls go cold on me without explanation. The same damn month i have had girls fall in love with me ( same level of hotness). I have had one girl friendzone me hard for years while many of her friends want to have my children. This can not be explained except by the fact that some girls like what they like.

This is the key to having great inner game. You just have to let go of the ones that dont recognize your value. Chances are that these are the ones that are perpetually single.

When girls dont text back or go cold it doesnt bother me nearly as much as it did even 3 months ago. I realize that it could be any number of reasons totally unrelated to me. She just didnt recognize my value. I know that there is a good chance the next girl i met will. I truly have an abundance mentality now.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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