"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Lately I've had the misfortune of meeting ladies in places or scenarios where the girl or girls are closed up with their body language and seem very bored. ok, for example.

I'll go to my friend's house and his GF will be over with her sister or sisters sometimes but one of the girls gives off the vibe that she doesnt want to be there, or she's having a miserable time or whatever...And so I'll approach her and because I know that she isnt exactly in the position for me to do my normal routine I simply and almost automatically Ill ask her a bunch of questions and I know in the back of my mind that this is NOT leading anywhere. And I'll just leave her alone. And my question is, how do you get a girl with a bad attitude to open up to you? The main thing that got me wondering was that this situation happens everytime...I go over, she's there sitting in a chair with her arms crossed and avoiding eye contact with everyone. But one day I was with my friend at the mall and we came across her and her buddies but this time she was actually talking and smiling. So all I need to do is figure out how to succeed in this situation.

And with the question I can also give some advice...dont neg a girl in a bad mood or bad attitude. She was playing pool and she hits a lame ass shot and I say "You're really good at this pool thing" and she mumbled "No one asked for your opinion" I kinda laughed at this. Yeah overall she is a top notch B-I-T-C-H who is apparently mad at the world but I want to know how to disarm these kind of girls because in the past couple of weeks I've had the opportunity to come in contact with a lot of these kinds of girls and I think that its a great challenge. Imagine having a girl in a bad attitude one minute and then laughing and shooting the sh*t with ya the next.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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they just seem angry and pissed off at the world, all you need to do is fight fire with fire- care less then they do and be more pissed off and have a higher level of angst then they do..that's about it. If you're a real dork acting like a bad azz ,they'll chew you out faster then you can say 'b!tch azz'- i have had my share of attracting bad girls..and the only thing i did was not even pay attention to them and have a smart answer for everything they had to say..hell, i didn't even have to look into their eyes because most of the time eye contact with them is fleeting anyways by nature...(they often respond to mistreatment and tend to mix erotic feelings with intimidation and power) god, with three girls i was seeing before, it's like the worse i treated them the more insanly obsessed with me they got..carefull though, i have had both death threats and threats to my car because of bad break ups these types of chicks,had to really smooth things over..
 
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so if i act like a **** around them, they will like it? Even if they're angst ridden h*es? I'll definately give it a go.
 

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yeah dude just act like the biggest **** ever. girls like that (hell, people like that in general) are not worth your time. If a person is being rude when you are making an effort to be friendly, **** em. Seriously. Show that ho where to go! HELL!!!!
 
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lol

do you listen to slayer? I noticed your location as being south of heaven
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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completely off topic but I noticed your sig and I ****ing LOVE Opeth...Lopez just left unfortunately :eek:
 

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Dimebag_Darrell said:
lol

do you listen to slayer? I noticed your location as being south of heaven

I think slayer is cool but i dont listen to them.

Some of my favorite hiphop artists did a song called south of heaven under a group called circle of tyrants, composed of ill bill, necro, mr hyde and goretex.

They are heavily influenced by metal and bands like slayer. Infact when they were young they started out in a metal band (ill bill/necro- brothers) called injustice who actually opened for slayer back in the 80's.

The more you know!
 
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circle of tyrants is also a song by Celtic Frost and was covered by Opeth as well..ahh
 

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Dimebag_Darrell said:
circle of tyrants is also a song by Celtic Frost and was covered by Opeth as well..ahh

Check out Necro "The prefix for death".
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I usually avoid boring girls. They are boring, hence, i'm disinterested. I'm not going to go out of my way to inspire someone to stop acting apathetic.
 

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Charm said:
I usually avoid boring girls. They are boring, hence, i'm disinterested. I'm not going to go out of my way to inspire someone to stop acting apathetic.
it's not about going out of your way, some guys actually enjoy romancing and playing into that whole romantic hero bit...i used to be into 'book worms' for a while and i found it to be quite fun to open her up to new experiances and doing things with her that she's never really thought of as being fun or tried..i once took this shy girl up into a porn shop behind this greazy dirty back alley way ,played with all the toys, teased her, made her blush and so forth..i convinced her to take out her brand new S2K and we drove around all night going from place to place just having a good time..she wasn't really into the things i was and but we had fun no less, she isn't the type i would go for usually..but in the end, i was the one who 'turned her out'..after that she became sort of a falandering slvt :crackup:

like i said before though, the people that are the hardest to get to know are usually the ones worth the effort in the end..
 
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