Climbing Mt.DJ: My Journal

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I just finished University, this is going to be my first summer off and I'd like to dedicate it to meeting girls and improving my confidence, as well as becoming more social. i.e. bringing some balance into my life.

I've been shy growing up and didnt spend a lot of time around girls, sexuality was non-existent (upbringing has been a big factor as well). I've missed out on countless opportunities over the years, still technically got my v-vcard in the pocket. I got with a girl once but I was too drunk/nervous/whatever so nothing happened we just made out and spent the night together. I had been to the gym earlier that evening and didnt eat enough, I felt like s*** the whole next day. She kept calling me afterwards but like an IDIOT I decided I'm not interested and ignored, instead of treating it as practice/fun. Thats probably my biggest regret so far. The lack of experience is definitely going to be a big obstacle for me to overcome.


I've been living at home, it didn't make sense to move as that would be a waste of money (education was 1st priority), I hope to make the best of it. The downside is I'm too used to being home, its become too much of a comfort zone. I gotta force myself to spend less time here. The urge to just go home has been a big factor. I got lots of free time now, but If I fail this summer then I must move out.

My main goal for now is to have constant dates and spend lots of time with the ladies. I dont expect to be banging chicks from clubs just yet.

Anyway, LETS DO IT. I hope to get advice from the DJs here to reach the top and hopefully by the end this journal will be interesting/inspirational/whatever. I'm ready to listen so feel free to give it to me straight up. I still have doubts lingering in my mind as I write this.. its gonna be tough :box:

 

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I went out to the local mall a couple times this week but couldn't get myself to talk to any girls. I went outside and walked around saying 'Hi' to people. It was easy with eye contact, but I wouldnt say anything to people facing away.

I decided I need a push, so I met up with a couple guys off a pua forum that had active "local" posts. We met at the same mall, these guys were starting out too, but after a couple hesitations one of them BAM goes for it, and get the #. Soon enough our 2nd friend goes for it and gets a # too. I'm the only one with no approach so I'm up. My mind is just boiling, I must do this.
I see a cute girl walking towards me...

Me: Excuse me, do you know where GUESS is
Hb: Umm, if you go down stairs, blah blah
Me: I'm pretty sure it's upstairs cos I totally just made that up. I just wanted to say Hi to you, I'm xs *extend hand*
Hb: sorry, I'm not single
Me: *as she walks away* aww you're not single.. Thats too bad..

Wow, what a relief. That wasn't hard at all. Once you actually say something the world goes away and it's just the conversation..

After a bit we're walking by a store, there's nobody inside except the single hb behind the counter. Without thinking I just go right in

Me: Hey, you look a little bored.
Hb: huh?
Me: You look like youre bored, I thought I'd say hi. slow day huh?
Hb: Yea, it's been slow
Me: How long have you been working today
*I proceed to ask her what she does and some small talk. She's from south America so I mention I'm headed to Cancun next week.*
* eventually *
Me: Anyway *step back*
Hb: You know I'm going to ___ tonight, there's party the theme is Cancun
Me: oh yea
Hb: yea, there will be lot's of Spanish people
My: well give me your # maybe I'll txt you
*puts # in*
Hb: Did I really look bored
Me: yea, you did *smile*, I'm just killing some time too with a couple friends. Anyway, it was nice to meet you ___
*Shake Hand, leave*

-- I should have given a sexual answer to the last line: no I just thought you were cute, etc. She was a 6.5 --

We go a little cold next. No one is doing anything except for some failed "Hi"s on my part. We sit down to rest. A girl walks by and sits on the adjacent bench, to the right/behind of me.
She starts talking on her phone, as soon as she finishes I got for it

Me: Hey, me and my friends were just wondering, are you here on a date or just with girlfriends
Hb: oh, I'm waiting for my bf
Me: That's not very nice, hes making you wait
Hb: Yea he works blah blah
*I cant think of what to say. Want to escalate and ignore the bf remark, but got nothing*
Me: Well anyway, see ya

Not too bad. They push me to do another approach to a hostess that seemed bored

Me: Hey looked bored so I though I'd say Hi
Hb: Hi
Me: How is your day going, how long have you been working
* I ask her what the place is, she explains the menu I note that I have never been in this restaurant *
* I notice she has a book in her hands, and ask her about that and we talk a little about books *
Me: So do you live around here
Hb: I live in XY, with my roommate and my boyfriend lives right next to us.
*Same situation, I cant think of a way to escalate/ignore the bf remark*
Me: Anyway, have a nice day
Hb: You too

I need to be more sexual in the convos and just ignore the bf remarks and go for the # close.

We did a couple other random approaches, eventually we call it a day and split up, I walk towards my escalator and tell myself I need to do another one.
As I get down a girl is opening the door from the parking lot. I walk up and it's the girl from the bench above!

Me: Its you again!
Hb: haha yea, my bf is blah blah in the car.
Me: So you're still waiting for him, wow. Whats your name?
*I ask her what she does, we talk a little about school*
Me: Soo, are you going up, can I come with you? *I didnt want to ask for the number there due to bf*
Hb: No.. it's okay
Me: Well you should give me your #
Hb: um, how about Facebook?
Me: I dont use facebook
Hb: No facebook?
Me: Nope, number or nothing. You dont have to reply.. maybe I wont even text you.
Hb: Something something my friends
Me: yea, thats a great idea, you should introduce me to your friends
Hb: Okay
I hold the phone out she puts # in
Me: nice meeting you __. *Shake hand lightly*
Hb: You too

I could have called/texted either of the 2 numbers but baby steps right.

 

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Went out again today. Couldn't approach anything.. same old.. I just just let her pass and feel releaved I didnt do anything.

My friend points to a girl walking in front of us I finally go for it:

Me: Hey, you looked cool, I thought I'd say hi
Hb: oh, Hi
Me: Whats your name?
Hb: ??
Me: Nice to meet you. Where you headed.
Hb: I'm going to work
Me: where do you work
Hb: XYZ
Me: Oh, I actually have no idea where that is

I felt like the convo wasn't going anywhere. I wasn't confident, didnt get any IOIs, I pulled out pretty soon.

Still can't push myself. There's a girl at a bus stop and just as I want to approach her a homeless guy walks up to her asking for change. She complies.. all the while we're standing there.. I go for it anyway:

Me: Hey, do you have more change I need a new drink (I had a dink in my hand)
Hb: haha, *looks towards homeless guy* yea that was awkward
Me: yea, why did you comply
Hb: I had my wallet in my hand, it felt bad
*I ask here what she does and what her plans are, she says she just moved.. then with a bit hesitation mentions its with her boyfriend. I got a feeling that I had failed so I pulled out* Damit!

Shortly I see a girl walking fast down the street across from me. I run after her:

Me: Hey you look like you're in a rush
Hb: Yea I have a business meeting
Me: Oh really, what kinda business
Hb: Public relations
Me: hmm
Hb: You're probably not from here?
Me: Actually I am, why do you say that?
Hb: You're too nice
Me: haha, really, you dont think people are nice here.. Well what's you name *extend hand, exchange names*
Hb: did you grow up here
Me: No, actually I didn't, you're right
Hb: Where you from?
Me: __
* some more small talk *
Me: You should give me your number
Hb: You give me yours
Me: No, let's exchange numbers
Hb: Give me yours I'll text you
I comply

Didnt do anything else , just a couple His. I feel completely out of my element, and really need to work on my convo skills. I know I'm not giving off the right vibe. My legs are killing me from all the walking and I have flashes of girls walking past me when I close my eyes.. sh iit..

I txted the girl above on my way home:
Her original text: Heeyy its ___ (not the name she mentioned in person)
Me: I'm pretty sure you said its ___ (correct name)
Her: yeah it is. I lied
Me: Do you remember my name?
Her: __!
me: Nope. tsk tsk
her: __! *again wrong*
her: I cant remember, I get so many people approach me.

I didnt reply.. and got this just now:

her: Sorry, my friend stole my phone
her: I remember *correct name*
her: And my name was __, glad you remembered.
her: Have a good night.

Any thoughts?