Chicks Who Approach/Open You: What To Do?

[mackdaknife]

I had a string of "lucky" encounters last night, meaning girls were opening me. It really caught me off guard. It's nice, but strange. I really didn't know what to do with it. Recommendations?

So, the first girl doing this is a very pretty girl, I'd say a 7.5 or 8. Young, tall, cute. I see her walking towards me at the bar, so I smile. She smiles back. Unfortunately, she taps a guy on the shoulder standing right in front of me. I assume they are boyfriend/girlfriend. She just stands there, lingering.

Then, she whispers something to the guy. It could just be my paranoia, but I think she said the following: "you can tell certain guys in here are players..." She nods over to me, without looking. The guy looks at me with a sheepish, embarrassed grin. I can feel my own face turning beet red in embarrassment.

Then she says to me: "oh, you can go ahead (and order a drink)." I decide this is an opening to talk to her. However, I decide it's safer to talk to her male companion first. She watches very intently as I speak to him. The guy seems very nervous and shy speaking to me. I try to have a friendly conversation, joking around, but the guy is so stiff and nervous, I just give up on it.

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I take a seat at the bar. Now, some older lady starts talking to me. She's very drunk and very animated. She begins to touch my arm and lean in. I move to get up and get away from her just a bit. She leans in some more and asks where my girlfriend or wife is. She asks me if I have kids. I'm pretty vague on the details. Then she says "you're way too cute not to have a girlfriend." I take this as my cue to leave.

Anyway, odd night in that I'm approached by consecutive girls. How would you guys have handled the first girl???

 

[Killer Six Pac]

Honestly, it doesnt sound like that first one was opening on you XD but in the future just get their number if your into them....

 

[James45]

if you like her then move into qualifying her, you already have her attraction since she approached you. demonstrate higher value then start qualifying.

So something like:

you: (smooth, sexy tonality with smile)Hi, you seem like an adventurous/fun/out-going/social women - ever been to NewYork? (thats your queue to DHV of some amazing story if she says no)

then just carry on as usual. There is nothing major about a girl opening you, it just means you skip the initial intro and attraction and you may be able to move things faster along because certain presumptions have already been made for them to approach you - you seem alpha, demonstrate 'player' characteristics, have social proof etc

 

[mackdaknife]

Thanks, James. I'll keep that in mind. In retrospect, I believe the guy was just a hanger-on or brother or something like that. He just seemed out of it and meek. I shouldn't have worried about him so much.

 

[n00bPimp]

When a girl approaches me I take it easy with the negs and C&F. No need for that once she has done half the job (the approach). tends to be counterintutive

 

[schttrj]

well, if the girl is whose value is equal to yours, and comes to you in a normal sweet way (introduction way) then just go on to a normal convo, she probably had a lot of guts to talk to you.

if the girl comes up to you in a stuck up DHV frame, a SHB, I think you can use some teasing and such, while never act like the girl, stuck up or arrogant, instead to diffuse her, just go on talking like the simple Joe (without showing that you're fazed by her) and being the level-headed!

 

[panosha]

maybe the guy was gay and he was embarrassed to talk to you:crackup: :crackup: