"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Chicken Legs

CaptFinnBad

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My family especially the males are cursed with chicken lens.

I always remember my grandfathers chicken legs when he wore shorts in the summer. He was a sailor and built like pop eye.

My father is the same. He used to be s body builder, had an impressive upper body but two pins for legs.

Unfortunately the family curse hasn't skipped my generation. Upper body I put on muscle quite easily.

My legs look terrible and are way out of proportion. .

Despite enjoying training legs and spending years and years under the bar squatting I've very little to show for it.

My legs are not a neglected body part, they just refuse to grow.

Getting tied or it. Over the years I've always remained positive and hopeful that maximum effort would pay off but here I am. With very little to show for it.

Now what?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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CaptFinnBad

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Seriously thinking of scaling back the leg work.

Mabye I'll train legs once a week. Stop focusing on heavy squats and just drop the weight, up the reps and just train light for pump?

Let's are definitely my weakest link by far. My calves are the biggest joke that's been played on me.
 

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if you train legs consistently with barbell squats it shouldn’t be this much of a problem. Do you have a picture? This could just be in your head, OP.
 

Poonstra

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Heavy squats and deadlifts. I squat every training session. Eat a surplus of protein and calories and they will grow. Did I mention heavy squats? As a bare minimum you squat your body weight, and you should strive to get that up to twice your body weight.

Can you give us some numbers? What are your squat, deadlift, bench and overhead press numbers now? How many sets and reps?
What program do you do? Tell us a bit about your typical workout. How much do you eat?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I have the opposite problem. My quads are disproportionately massive. Squats and deadlifts did occupy the bulk of my training for years, but for the past 2 years I almost completely stopped them, and despite losing 20 lbs they're still huge.

It's further proof that body comp and aesthetics is largely genetically determined.

As far as advice goes, I'd suggest doing hypertrophy styled squats and front squats. 10 sets of 10 starting at say 135lbs might be optimal if you're serious. Just make sure you keep good form. Don't waste time with leg press or other machines. Just squat.
 
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