"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Chick led me on and played the hell out of me now I'm really upset

Ringleader41

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Warning Long story

This chick went and approached me first which I think was my biggest weakness. If a chick ain't interested than I simply move on, but if she's interested in me at first than it's harder for me to move on. We started texting and stuff and she gave me good responses and it looked pretty clear she was interested. I took her out on two dates and they were wonderful. I really thought this girl was relationship material. I'm in a fraternity, and we have formals, so I asked this chick out to one and got a hell yes. My ego was pretty high and I really thought I had this in the bag.

Well, here comes the beginning of the dark ages now. A week before my formal I found out her sorority had a formal and she didn't even mention it to me nor invite me. I mean it seems kind of rude and all my brothers were like drop her because that's a ***** move. Since I wasn't spinning any other plates and I was still fooled by the high interest she had in me I decided to give her another chance, but I gave her the cold shoulder for a week. The week before formal was pretty much exam week, so no parties were going on. This prevented me from finding another girl and I kind of started to resent this chick. Well, formal day comes up and it's time to pick her up. When I picked her up I noticed 2 hickies on her neck. Believe me, this pissed me the hell off, but I didn't want to say anything about it because I didn't want this girl to ruin my formal. During formal she was kind of a pooper and I treated her pretty bad during it. When were drunk a person mentioned the hickies and she kept saying she didn't want to talk about it. Eventually, I overheard her say that she went to a party with this guy and he got her drunk and he like kiss raped her. Formal went pretty good, despite the hickey situation though. This caused my interest level to increase. That night we spooned and I should have made a move which I fully regret doing. After formal, I was bummed out that I didn't make a move, so I planned on asking her out and making a move. In formal, we were suppose to give each other alcohol. Well, she didn't finish the alcohol I gave her and she kept bugging me to let her have the rest. I joked around a little saying no, but I said I guess lol. Well, she forgot to get it and left it with me, so I planned on asking her to come finish it with me. After I made a move I planned on being done with this chick and moving on. I asked her and she gave me an excuse that she couldn't drink tonight because she had a test tomorrow. I offered another night and she said she couldn't drink that night and didn't offer another day, so I said **** it. She also said she was going to come get her alcohol that night. I'm not an idiot, so I made an excuse saying I wasn't in the room. She said she will call me about it tomorrow. That night, I thought about the history of this and it just really pissed me the **** off. I really want to tell her how disrespectful she was to me and how I don't think she deserves that alcohol. I really don't know how to get over this situation right now because she keeps texting me like nothing happened and I just give her short responses. Also, I can't find another girl because school is ending and I'll be stuck at my house all summer which is pretty much a jail cell. I really don't know what to do right now and would like some input.

Also, I know I wasn't spinning plates and I realize that and not making a move killed me. It's not that I don't believe in talking to just one girl, but I'm not good enough yet to attract girls that aren't already attracted to me.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Ringleader41 said:
Warning Long story

This chick went and approached me first which I think was my biggest weakness. If a chick ain't interested than I simply move on, but if she's interested in me at first than it's harder for me to move on. We started texting and stuff and she gave me good responses and it looked pretty clear she was interested. I took her out on two dates and they were wonderful. I really thought this girl was relationship material. I'm in a fraternity, and we have formals, so I asked this chick out to one and got a hell yes. My ego was pretty high and I really thought I had this in the bag.

Well, here comes the beginning of the dark ages now. A week before my formal I found out her sorority had a formal and she didn't even mention it to me nor invite me. I mean it seems kind of rude and all my brothers were like drop her because that's a ***** move. Since I wasn't spinning any other plates and I was still fooled by the high interest she had in me I decided to give her another chance, but I gave her the cold shoulder for a week. The week before formal was pretty much exam week, so no parties were going on. This prevented me from finding another girl and I kind of started to resent this chick. Well, formal day comes up and it's time to pick her up. When I picked her up I noticed 2 hickies on her neck. Believe me, this pissed me the hell off, but I didn't want to say anything about it because I didn't want this girl to ruin my formal. During formal she was kind of a pooper and I treated her pretty bad during it. When were drunk a person mentioned the hickies and she kept saying she didn't want to talk about it. Eventually, I overheard her say that she went to a party with this guy and he got her drunk and he like kiss raped her. Formal went pretty good, despite the hickey situation though. This caused my interest level to increase. That night we spooned and I should have made a move which I fully regret doing. After formal, I was bummed out that I didn't make a move, so I planned on asking her out and making a move. In formal, we were suppose to give each other alcohol. Well, she didn't finish the alcohol I gave her and she kept bugging me to let her have the rest. I joked around a little saying no, but I said I guess lol. Well, she forgot to get it and left it with me, so I planned on asking her to come finish it with me. After I made a move I planned on being done with this chick and moving on. I asked her and she gave me an excuse that she couldn't drink tonight because she had a test tomorrow. I offered another night and she said she couldn't drink that night and didn't offer another day, so I said **** it. She also said she was going to come get her alcohol that night. I'm not an idiot, so I made an excuse saying I wasn't in the room. She said she will call me about it tomorrow. That night, I thought about the history of this and it just really pissed me the **** off. I really want to tell her how disrespectful she was to me and how I don't think she deserves that alcohol. I really don't know how to get over this situation right now because she keeps texting me like nothing happened and I just give her short responses. Also, I can't find another girl because school is ending and I'll be stuck at my house all summer which is pretty much a jail cell. I really don't know what to do right now and would like some input.

Also, I know I wasn't spinning plates and I realize that and not making a move killed me. It's not that I don't believe in talking to just one girl, but I'm not good enough yet to attract girls that aren't already attracted to me.
My only response to this is>http://i40.tinypic.com/mvmhbo.jpg

Move on man. And don't say a word to her about the alcohol or anything else for that matter. And you need to do a self analysis of yourself. You obsess way too much about meaningless sh1t.
 

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And furthermore...you say in the headline that she led you on?? Ummm>>>>>http://s7.tinypic.com/250nvnn.jpg

You had her in your bed, after a night of drinking, spooning, and you failed to close the deal. She didn't lead you on. She was saying "come and get me".

You led YOURSELF on. And then you went cold on yourself. Think about it.
 

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Yeah, I fvcked up badddddd. I'm still depressed about this because I could have lost my vcard and kissed my first girl that night.
 

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Ringleader41 said:
Yeah, I fvcked up badddddd. I'm still depressed about this because I could have lost my vcard and kissed my first girl that night.
Ahhhhhh so you are a virgin. And you have never kissed a girl. Now it makes sense. When I was 15 or so I felt the same way. Granted you are a little older, but don't sweat it.

Why are you trying to go for a home run when you haven't even hit a single yet? Let alone a double or a triple? Kiss a few girls, get comfy being intimate with a woman. Then move to feeling her up, which leads to oral, which leads to the hole down under. But take your time. You have your whole life to do this crap.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Ringleader41

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Cause I don't know how to talk and approach to girls properly. Every girl I've ****** up with has approached me first.
 

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You need a lot of help. I suggest you read over some books. The Art of Mackin by Tariq Nasheed is a good start.

You need a lot of help in many different areas of your life. If I made a post to address all your problems it would probably be a mini book.
 

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Bro you're in college you'll get your chance don't count yourself out.

Remember Babe Ruth lead the leauge in most strike outs as well as the most home runs so swing for the fences boys!
 

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she couldn't get me led strip lights 12v because her car broke down the same day. Well I arrived quite late knowing I'd have to leave early. Well she had made me dinner and it was something I hated. I feigned pleasure at it but she kept pressing me for my opinion on it til I told the truth. Then later there was an incident where she was annoying me just for the sake of it and I got a bit grumpy. So this morning I text her LED strip Manufacturer
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saying 'sorry I was an ass' she said she 100% agreed that I was and is considering shutting things down.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Happens to the best of us. One thing I can tell you that will help you is DON'T SWEAT IT. Seriously. The brain has a way of adjusting to mistakes, but if you keep bashing yourself for it, replaying the mistake, regretting -- feeling the "pain" (all in your head, lover) that's all you'll know. It's a self fulfilling prophesy. You'll never learn from your mistakes if you don't break that destructive cycle.

Wishing you all the best with the hottest women in the world.

Yours truly,
Ladyzman
 

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I don't get this, I went out with my friends and my one of my friends was after this girl. She rejected his kino techniques, wouldn't dance with him, and so on. I was confused because I kino this girl all the time and she never rejects me, I don't even have to ask her to dance with me, she just automatically starts dancing on me, and also I've smacked her ass a couple of times and she didn't get mad. Also, we've held hands a lot. I"m so confused lol
 
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