Chasing and feeling incomplete

[jhonny9546]

This person explains how one of the most toxic behaviors is constantly chasing external things and never feeling complete.
According to him, anything based on codependency, whether it's money, status, women, or friends, is harmful because it forces us to keep chasing more. And when those things are missing, we experience anxiety, depression, and emptiness.


Instead, he suggests that we should simply eliminate the desire for these things and act as if we already have what we feel is missing.
What do you think about this from a seduction or social dynamics perspective?
For most of our lives, we interact with people and situations that fall into the firt scenario, constant chasing.


It also seems like there's a biological drive, especially in men, to "compete" and raise their SMV in order to be accepted by society and gain social and financial opportunities. The same goes for women.
Biologically, many women may feel incomplete until they find a man and have children. It’s likely that once they achieve that, their priorities shift and that internal sense of “lack” may go away.
Also, sexual desire, is just something you feel and it needs another human to complete the experiences.
In this case, you need a woman to f0ck


What’s your take on this?

 

[BaronOfHair]

My take on this:

Unless you're an 18 year old Hezbollah rookie who's now short a few limbs, after one of your IEDs went off on you(rather than that Sayeret Tzanhanim patrol you were trying to snuff out), you've got no excuse for "feeling incomplete"

 

[CoolWave1331]

Ever hear the saying what is meant for you will find you?

EVERYONE is after the same thing / has the same desires-needs. When women say they don't need a man, it's just talk. They say that when they are young & desirable - they are bombarded with attention all the time and don't have to go very far to find it. When they get older and it goes away, they cry.

Get to know some of these young women who talk tough. There's lots of them who say this stuff but in private are really bothered by the fact they haven't found the "right guy". Whether it's their fault or not is not the point.

Self improvement is necessary to have a larger pull. If you're doing it right, you won't have to "bend over backwards". It's not really necessary to force yourself to blindly approach hundreds of women. I know guys are trying very hard & are frustrated. Contrary to popular belief, if a woman deems you "attractive" most of the time she'll try to let you know somehow / you'll get an invite. What happens afterwards is on you dude, you hae to take control.

 

[plumber]

jhonny, is biological and chemical. the patterns of behavior that your discussing is driven from very specific brain areas. we don't know if we have always had it the way we have. the lack of calm and identity is not something you convince yourself to change, it is something you adjust and then enjoy. identity, identity.