"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Center/Frame recovery in an LTR...

wifehunter

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Being single is great!!! If something throws me off center, I can disappear for days to recover. But, in an LTR, I imagine getting away is not so easy.

So my question is this... Those of you in an LTR... How do you manage!?!?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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sodbuster

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It's the difference between a part time job and a full time job. You don't get the chance to recover. Need to be on the top of your game all the time. You can talk to your buddies, but never show weakness in front of her
 

Killakittie

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Here's the secret.

You learn boundaries, you learn to filter through the good and the bad women efficiently, and eventually if your lucky enough you find a women very close to being your ideal "perfect" mate. This all occurs well before the LTR stage and where most men fvck up myself included.
 

mrgoodstuff

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Being single is great!!! If something throws me off center, I can disappear for days to recover. But, in an LTR, I imagine getting away is not so easy.

So my question is this... Those of you in an LTR... How do you manage!?!?
Be with someone you don't have to be game mode all the time, IE: they have your back. A real LTR will see you weak at times, of course you have to apply some game to maintain attraction. But they will see the real you. If your not with a female shark or predator you will be ok.
 

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Thanks guys,
Here's the secret.

You learn boundaries, you learn to filter through the good and the bad women efficiently, and eventually if your lucky enough you find a women very close to being your ideal "perfect" mate. This all occurs well before the LTR stage and where most men fvck up myself included.
She's an actual sweetie. And, we're both crazy about each other. Her shyness throws me off at times. It's my own personal insecurities, and disbelief in the reality of the situation. I just need to play it off like it's a normal everyday thing, when I know it's not.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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