"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Wake up boy!
Stop what you're doing and come here for a sec.

Today we're gonna try something different. Today we're going to sieze the day.

Forget about everything. About being early, about being late.
About being overly concerned, about being overly calm.

Let go of your commitments. Don't log on to AIM. Or MSN. Forget about people.

No, today you're NOT going to open up that hot chick you've been planning all weekend. And NO, today you're not going to spend your time being C&F with the cuties you know.

Today, you won't be the class clown. Today you won't ask the teachers funny questions. Today you won't put up a show.

Today you're going to sit back... and let it flow...
From the moment you wake up, until you go to bed, just f*cking let it flow.

You'll have your breakfast and let it flow... so what if you get late? So what if you have to go to school with messed hair and not-so-cool clothes...
So what if you get late because you spent a extra 10 minutes talking to your brother, or your sister, or your grandmma, or your cool 70 years old neighboor who likes you like a grandson?

So what if you miss the bus? No, you won't mack the bus cutie today!! No way !! And you're not going to meet up with your friends and say a lot of sh!t like you're used to... No, today we're letting it flow...

You'll get to school, and you're not going to say hello to anyone... So what if the think you're rude... so what if they have something to say to you?

Today, my boy, you're just going to sit back and chill, and let it all flow... whatever comes to you, you'll let it flow... if nothing comes, so what? You'll do your homework and study a lot, and get smarter...

I guess you all got the idea. We, western people, are slaves to tight schedules and overplanning things, this anxiety, this mental masturbation of always having to do next, is what kills us. What makes us have expectations we can never meet.

Live like a buddhist monk for a day... and feel the calmness, the easiness of just letting it flow... the universe, my friend, manifests itself in a variety of forms, all of which are the most appropiated to your own self-evolution. So, let it flow... let the waters of the universe reach you...

It may sound passive... but, it's the only way you can learn to be comfortable with yourself... to like living in your own shoes... It's YOU we're talking about here man, and you're going to spend the rest of your life with this guy....

If you can't just sit and spend 5 minutes with yourself without getting anxious and nervous like a f*cking dog, then things are going to be though for you.

Seize the day. Notice the clouds. They'll never be the same again, never, so won't you.
You're not the center of the universe, but the universe manifest itself on you.

Sometimes, we're mere tools of the universe. We're put into places and situations only to serve as tool, so that the universe can get a certain message through to someone who needs it.

So, accept it. Embrace it. Be kind to others, knowing that you're just a tool, and when you need a message from the universe, other tools will come to you without hesitation.

There's plenty of beauty out there, and a natural beauty that is fading. There's plenty of wisdom out there, and a wisdom that is dying...vanishing, to never come back again....

So, what are you worried about, checking out some boobs? Talking crap to some silly girls?

Seize the day my friends, and enjoy all the beauty and wisdom that the universe offers you...because it's all fading...

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I love you.
 

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Good post, i tried this out and it was definatelly a relaxing experience. A life lesson has been learnt.

Thank you.
 

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Well I already missed the bus, time to do the rest. I suppose it is time to attempt to be one with the world.
 

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wow. i've just been suffering from a bout of depression and anxiety... your post really helped me see how to relax... thanks!! i've been studying too hard for a major exam and i think its been getting to me. thanks for the inspirational post... yup. most of us are too caught up in this busy society worrying too much about things we have absolutely no control over... thanks for making me realize that... i'll just sit back and take it slow...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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