Cant become close to girls anymore

[Spyder213]

Has this happened to anyone else on here. After I got kinda screwed by this one girl I don't really allow myself
to get too close with girls anymore. I mean there is this one girl that really likes me and I like her but I can't let myself get close to her. Is this a bad thing? Will it eventually pass? Ha I feel a bit like a robot.

 

[kyokon]

I am in a bit of a state like that myself at the moment, doesn't bother me though since I'm enjoying being single. I have had some older (like over 60) guys with much more life experience tell me that it will pass, so I'm taking their word for it.

 

[Ritch]

I feel your pain. I just recently (over 4 years later) have started to LET myself open up to my girlfriend. She put up with a lot in the first few months. I am living proof that it will pass. I personally believe that it just takes longer with the same girl to open up.

 

[Scars]

Depends on what you want.

If you want to date multiple woman then this is the ideal mindset to have. You don't get attached or put all your eggs in one basket. Your mind remains clear, focused, and whenever a girl is acting up it makes it so much easier to just ignore her because you really don't care. Thus raising her interest even more.

If you're looking to date one woman and be in a committed and faithful relationship then yes, this could be a problem. However, I wouldn't really worry too much. Woman have a way with us. We may put up a wall for so long, but if you start investing enough time in one girl you will start to develop feeling for her. It's just you may not realize you actually care until she does something to trigger your anger switch or perhaps even lose her completely. All I can say is give it time. And if you ever do find yourself in relationship like that just remember to always stand your ground as a man and remain the confident and dominant force. Don't ever get suckered into thinking she is "special" or "different" and don't ever think it's okay to change the rules for her. They're all the same.

 

[JerryFl08]

If you want to date multiple woman then this is the ideal mindset to have. You don't get attached or put all your eggs in one basket. Your mind remains clear, focused, and whenever a girl is acting up it makes it so much easier to just ignore her because you really don't care. Thus raising her interest even more

This is the key mindset to have because it will be much easier to get into a relationship if that's what you really want. why? because you date different women and ur interest isn't fully put onto one person, it's split so lets say if one girl decided to not date you for whatever reason well who cares you still got others.. having this mindset is super attractive to woman cuz it makes them wonder,, "why isn't this guy putting so much attention on me like all the other so called men do"and also you find which one appeals to you the most.

Of course though in my opinion, you have to have the mindset of not wanting a relationship, because wanting a relationship can subconsciously make you needy. That's EXACTLY what happened to me and i'm glad i learned from that mistake.

And if you ever do find yourself in relationship like that just remember to always stand your ground as a man and remain the confident and dominant force. Don't ever get suckered into thinking she is "special" or "different" and don't ever think it's okay to change the rules for her. They're all the same.

This is a MUST! Do not as the phrase goes "put the pu$sy on the pedestal",, the worst mistake a man can ever make. do not do this. I did this, i got whooped, i ended up being in her friend zone...In a way alllll girls are the same... Do not put the pu$sy on the pedestal...