sixer_fan_3
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Hey guys, this is my first post. I think this is a very entertaining and helpful board for men the world over. Okay i will try to keep the facts as straight as possible. sorry but long read.
1. i have been in a LTR with this girl for about 2-3yrs. outside of the last 4 months most of it has been long distance.
2. we have had our problems , especially because we lived in different cities till last October, but nothing ever related to cheating.
3. i went home overseas for a month right after we got into a huge fight. she was drunk in a bar and gave her number out to a guy who is in grad school with her best friend(strike 1) while i was in the bar. i sent her a nastygram saying its over between us. i later apologized on her voicemail for the nastygram, but made it clear i did not approve of her behavior.
4. i came back to find out she had become damn near best friends with my roomie (female) and had been over the house to help my roomie pay my bills, leave a gift and a letter apologizing etc.
5. we had dinner last weekend to talk over what happened and she apologized again. she also added that she had to tell me something.
6. she met a guy on the 31st night. met up with him again on the 1st in the afternoon and according to her she performed oral sex on him. her justification was that she was trying to get over me, was hurt by my nastygram and just threw caution to the wind. also it was an out of towner she was never going to meet again. (strike 2)
7. i was very calm about this, mainly because, i had slept with like 6 girls while outside the country....also in a bid to get over her. Of course, i told her i did not do anything outside the country.
8. i was also very surprised because i could almost count on her on not getting physical with a guy that quickly. i guess i have learnt u cant trust a woman.
8. i am not even going to sugar coat it...i really like her and i am willing to work it out mainly because i also did dirt when i was outside the country and even cheated on her while in the country also. In a sense I consider her actions as Karma for what i did back home and it would be unfair/hypocritical to not give her a second chance.
9. she has cried almost everytime we've met, apologizing for what happened. she seems sincerely apologetic. she has also said she doesnt feel she deserves me anymore after what she did and is afraid to lose me.
10. what baffles me is that she is refusing to have sex with me (except hand jobs) till she gets an HIV test. she still claims i am the only one she's ever had sex with. We had an HIV test before we got sexual and I broke her viriginity. To an extent i believe she didnt had sex with the guy because she said she told the guy about HPV (she got diagnosed with it and i probably have it too since i must have given it to her.....unless she has cheated on me sometime back and gotten it....lol). i figured the guy wont wanna have sex after she told him that....however i dont know why she doesnt wanna have sex till she has had a test. she is having a test today.
11. we spoke about it on wednesday and she said she felt she had to do it since the guy said he had had 15-20 partners. she said she was sorry and would understand if i did not believe that they did not do the deed, but was telling me the truth. i have always told her the only reason why i would leave her is if she ever had sex with someone, so maybe she is making sure i dont hit the breaking point. i plan on talking to her about it again and this time i will tell her i need to know the whole truth and nothing but the truth. her decision to have an HIV test after a blow job doesnt make sense to me.
12. i can do one of two things and i believe i can live with both....i can cut her lose and move on...or i can rationalize her actions (which stand pale in comparison to mine in the same time period) and work it out with her. i dont want to regret letting her go, but at the same time i dont want to live with this hanging over my/our head forever.
13. i think a lot of the special/perfect aura i had of her are gone. however, my two best friends think i should give her another chance since we all mess up.
14. hit me
1. i have been in a LTR with this girl for about 2-3yrs. outside of the last 4 months most of it has been long distance.
2. we have had our problems , especially because we lived in different cities till last October, but nothing ever related to cheating.
3. i went home overseas for a month right after we got into a huge fight. she was drunk in a bar and gave her number out to a guy who is in grad school with her best friend(strike 1) while i was in the bar. i sent her a nastygram saying its over between us. i later apologized on her voicemail for the nastygram, but made it clear i did not approve of her behavior.
4. i came back to find out she had become damn near best friends with my roomie (female) and had been over the house to help my roomie pay my bills, leave a gift and a letter apologizing etc.
5. we had dinner last weekend to talk over what happened and she apologized again. she also added that she had to tell me something.
6. she met a guy on the 31st night. met up with him again on the 1st in the afternoon and according to her she performed oral sex on him. her justification was that she was trying to get over me, was hurt by my nastygram and just threw caution to the wind. also it was an out of towner she was never going to meet again. (strike 2)
7. i was very calm about this, mainly because, i had slept with like 6 girls while outside the country....also in a bid to get over her. Of course, i told her i did not do anything outside the country.
8. i was also very surprised because i could almost count on her on not getting physical with a guy that quickly. i guess i have learnt u cant trust a woman.
8. i am not even going to sugar coat it...i really like her and i am willing to work it out mainly because i also did dirt when i was outside the country and even cheated on her while in the country also. In a sense I consider her actions as Karma for what i did back home and it would be unfair/hypocritical to not give her a second chance.
9. she has cried almost everytime we've met, apologizing for what happened. she seems sincerely apologetic. she has also said she doesnt feel she deserves me anymore after what she did and is afraid to lose me.
10. what baffles me is that she is refusing to have sex with me (except hand jobs) till she gets an HIV test. she still claims i am the only one she's ever had sex with. We had an HIV test before we got sexual and I broke her viriginity. To an extent i believe she didnt had sex with the guy because she said she told the guy about HPV (she got diagnosed with it and i probably have it too since i must have given it to her.....unless she has cheated on me sometime back and gotten it....lol). i figured the guy wont wanna have sex after she told him that....however i dont know why she doesnt wanna have sex till she has had a test. she is having a test today.
11. we spoke about it on wednesday and she said she felt she had to do it since the guy said he had had 15-20 partners. she said she was sorry and would understand if i did not believe that they did not do the deed, but was telling me the truth. i have always told her the only reason why i would leave her is if she ever had sex with someone, so maybe she is making sure i dont hit the breaking point. i plan on talking to her about it again and this time i will tell her i need to know the whole truth and nothing but the truth. her decision to have an HIV test after a blow job doesnt make sense to me.
12. i can do one of two things and i believe i can live with both....i can cut her lose and move on...or i can rationalize her actions (which stand pale in comparison to mine in the same time period) and work it out with her. i dont want to regret letting her go, but at the same time i dont want to live with this hanging over my/our head forever.
13. i think a lot of the special/perfect aura i had of her are gone. however, my two best friends think i should give her another chance since we all mess up.
14. hit me
Just ain't no getting rid of THIS girl!