Can you guys explain this?

[LateDeveloper]

Hello everyone

I'm really quite new to all this as I am a late developer in the game of love!

I was hoping you could help or shed some advice on my latest experience.

I am currently meeting ladies via a dating site. I starting talking/txting this particular girl. We did this for about a month before meeting up. Everything seemed great in our conversations and txting.

We met at a group event on a Saturday, their was less pressure because we are both divorcees. Anyway after the event i sent a text saying it was nice to meet her etc. and she said the same.

Monday Morning I sent her a text 'Hey Sweetie ' at 10.00

She replies with 'Myname, I've met someone' at 11.00

To be ohnest I was totally taken off guard! Anyway, I didn't reply to this, sod that! So she sends another text at 4.00pm saying 'Im so sorry Myname'

I did reply to this with the following, 'Sorry been in meetings! Sounds good, all the best'

She replys straight away with ' Thank you'

What's going on here guy's, have I missed a trick or something????

 

[Iceberg]

You didn't miss a trick, but you definitely shouldn't spend a month emailing and texting someone you don't know.

You're doing online dating? Send 2 or 3 emails. Then get the number. Then arrange a date. If the woman is serious about meeting someone, the process should take less than 10 days.

Never invest a month into a woman who you don't know. That's absurd. While you're sending her cute texts, calling her "sweetie" and sending smiley faces, she's out there exploring her options.

Lesson learned.

 

[Mike32ct]

I never had any positive results from sending an after date text that said "It was great meeting you" or "I had a good time." It sounds like a nice gesture, but it probably shows too much interest too soon.

Plus I think it was a little to soon to call her Sweetie. "Good Morning Sweetie" texts are probably ok in a relationship, but can scare off someone you just started seeing.

All in all, whether she met someone or didn't, she isn't interested. Her apology later was because she felt a bit guilty about dumping you.

 

[LateDeveloper]

Thanks IceBerg, I did read here somewhere not to take so long getting to meet someone. This was my 'First' and 'Last' time I make this mistake!

Cheers

 

[LateDeveloper]

I know Iv'e messed this one up by being really 'nice'. I'm not going to contact here again and am back on the site. I did check to see if she is their and nope she isn't from the date we agreed to take our profiles offline. Anyway will have to go NC and see what happen's.

 

[Iceberg]

I know Iv'e messed this one up by being really 'nice'. I'm not going to contact here again and am back on the site. I did check to see if she is their and nope she isn't from the date we agreed to take our profiles offline. Anyway will have to go NC and see what happen's.

Whoa wait a minute...

Maybe I'm mistaking something, but did you and her agree to take your profiles down after meeting up?

If I'm reading that correctly, that sounds REALLY bad. You basically agreed to give up your right to pursue other women.....based on ONE date with this current woman. A date you waited a month to get.

Maybe I'm reading incorrectly....

 

[LateDeveloper]

No, I didn't explain properly. We took our profiles offline after agreeing to meet up. What I dont get is, after she blew me out on Monday, why her profile is still hidden. To be ohnest with you, I dont believe she met anybody, she spent most of the time qualifying herself with me on Saturday. I think this also made me too confident on Monday morning! Something's not right but I cant put my finger on it!

 

[backseatjuan]

She don't want to meet you again.

You shouldn't spend a month talking. Why? What girls do, they talk, and when you talk to them they take you as friend, girl friend. Read pook. What you should do is take them for a coffee immediately.

My messages read as follows, translation from Russia.

"To hell with texting, I'm all about live interaction. Let's meet to today, give me your number"

Direct game!

Find a pic of a hot girl, create a fake girl account. You'll get 50 messages from guys, and see what they all say. "Hello", "how you doing"

Fvck that, be direct, if she wants to meet, she'll meet.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Look man you can spend days going over this crap and in the end it won't matter.

1. A girl should never be allowed to make any changes in your life at all until she is committed to you in some way.
2. Woman like a man of action, a decisive man. Taking a month texting around is bad. Makes you look desparate or weak.
3. It's over big deal, now you have time for more HOs.

Sometimes ending things right allows it to start off good again. If a girl breaks up with you and she sees your having a hard time with it she may never talk to you again. But if you wish her the best and end it on a positive note. Theres chances it might kick off again.

 

[LateDeveloper]

SgtSplacker

1. A girl should never be allowed to make any changes in your life at all until she is committed to you in some way.

This is gold. Thank you.

2. Woman like a man of action, a decisive man. Taking a month texting around is bad. Makes you look desparate or weak. -

Under normal circumstance's this is spot on. I did'nt add was we were both away for approx. 2 weeks for that month so really just 2 weeks. But none the less
what you are saying is right.

3. It's over big deal, now you have time for more HOs.

Yes, but Iv'e ended it on good terms so I think I havnt come across as a ****** AFC ****! Thanks