Can you get her back if you're the one who made mistakes?

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Oneday_

Don Juan

Feb 2, 2015

PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
I believe a lot of what happened in this breakup was purely pretextual on her end by the way. she can't help but regret her decision at this point she had her five minutes of alpha with you even though you were an ass

What exactly do you mean by this? Also some of my friends think I should apologize for pissing her off. But I didn't do anything? Was stating a fact in my opinion to how she was trying to come off like she was already so happy.

Last edited: Feb 2, 2015

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.