Background - Theres this woman I've seen around the gym for about 6 months. She's no babe in the looks dept just probably around a 6. Not ugly but moderately attractive.
However, like me, she's super fit. I mean like hot bod super babe fit. She has been working out since she was a kid, gymnastics etc, and now doing gym workouts 5-6 days a week and that is what primarily attracts me. As well as being in her mid 20's age I'd say.
I haven't been actively pursuing her over the last 6 months but I am definitely getting IOI's from her as we occasionally interact.
So I say to myself, "ok I'll get her number".
Some flirty conversation ensues during a recent conversation and I ask her for her phone number. I got the much talked about on sosuave "I have a boyfriend".
Now I'm a black and white type of guy (on decisions). I don't get into the "well maybe she doesn't have a boyfriend maybe she's testing me" etc. If she says she has a boyfriend then I'm done pursuing. That's just me.
One of the reasons, among many reasons, for the "I have a boyfriend" (this one mentioned by Rollo Tomassi on this board) is she is "Proactively LJBF". So I assume I just got LJBF. I'm a little disappointed but no biggie as there's no time invested etc.
Now I thought to myself "ok your comment implies you want to be friends that's cool too" and I said with no particular interest just matter of fact type of tone, while holding out my hand "Still friends"? and shook her hand and then left.
The next time I saw her at the gym she was talking on the phone which she has never done ever at least around me. Odd I thought.
Questions;
1. Did I just unwittingly throw the LJBF back in her face (Friendzone a Friendzone) ?
2. Was her being on the phone for the first time ever her sending the message I actually do have a boyfriend for real or I'm just pretending I have a boyfriend because YOU (that's me) just LJBF'd ME (her) and I am embarrassed and I feel I have lower value so I have to fake I have a boyfriend by pretending to be on the phone with my "boyfriend" ?
Just curious. Thanks.
However, like me, she's super fit. I mean like hot bod super babe fit. She has been working out since she was a kid, gymnastics etc, and now doing gym workouts 5-6 days a week and that is what primarily attracts me. As well as being in her mid 20's age I'd say.
I haven't been actively pursuing her over the last 6 months but I am definitely getting IOI's from her as we occasionally interact.
So I say to myself, "ok I'll get her number".
Some flirty conversation ensues during a recent conversation and I ask her for her phone number. I got the much talked about on sosuave "I have a boyfriend".
Now I'm a black and white type of guy (on decisions). I don't get into the "well maybe she doesn't have a boyfriend maybe she's testing me" etc. If she says she has a boyfriend then I'm done pursuing. That's just me.
One of the reasons, among many reasons, for the "I have a boyfriend" (this one mentioned by Rollo Tomassi on this board) is she is "Proactively LJBF". So I assume I just got LJBF. I'm a little disappointed but no biggie as there's no time invested etc.
Now I thought to myself "ok your comment implies you want to be friends that's cool too" and I said with no particular interest just matter of fact type of tone, while holding out my hand "Still friends"? and shook her hand and then left.
The next time I saw her at the gym she was talking on the phone which she has never done ever at least around me. Odd I thought.
Questions;
1. Did I just unwittingly throw the LJBF back in her face (Friendzone a Friendzone) ?
2. Was her being on the phone for the first time ever her sending the message I actually do have a boyfriend for real or I'm just pretending I have a boyfriend because YOU (that's me) just LJBF'd ME (her) and I am embarrassed and I feel I have lower value so I have to fake I have a boyfriend by pretending to be on the phone with my "boyfriend" ?
Just curious. Thanks.