"can you call me back" HELL NO!

[bfl]

Some of u that read my last post knows what girl it is , but anyways i called this gurl up just now after waiting for 2 days.

She sounded like she was having a hell of a time she is gonna tell me "can you call me back" i said yeah but i got no plans in callin her never ever again, if she wants to talk to me she beeter call me.

And if i see her i aint even gonna hit on her no more although i know she likes me.

Am i doing the right thing or what?
Whats the rule when it comes to her saying can u call me back?
How long should i wait if i should call at all...?

 

[ManOMan]

I met a girl who did this to me, I KNEW it was a sh1t test, she said, can you call me back?

I never did, and she called me back. I would just play it off and see if she calls you, if she asks you why you didnt call back, just play like you forgot or had to run to the store and forgot

 

[bfl]

yeh i think she did call me back but i was on the net and got disconected, it was probably her but oh well..

Now i think that im not gonna call her till saturday or i might just wait 2 weeks till i call her, she got my number now so if she really wants to talk to me she'll call right?

What yall think?

 

[bfl]

bumping this

I need some more insights

 

[Rondavu]

When she sais "Can you call me back", just say "You call me if you wanna talk". If she asks "Why can't you call me?" say "Your the one that wants to talk later." If she starts playing mind games like "What, you don't wanna talk to me?", just say "Knock it off. Of course I do. I'll talk to you when you call." You get it? You have to be stealth enough about throwing it back on her. If you can't beat her at mind tennis then your no Don anyway. If she starts accusing you of being rude then NEXT her since she's apparently on a mission to tame you by not allowing you the right to be a man. Don't stand for the manipulation.

 

[J-Man]

Originally posted by Rondavu
When she sais "Can you call me back", just say "You call me if you wanna talk". If she asks "Why can't you call me?" say "Your the one that wants to talk later." If she starts playing mind games like "What, you don't wanna talk to me?", just say "Knock it off. Of course I do. I'll talk to you when you call." You get it? You have to be stealth enough about throwing it back on her. If you can't beat her at mind tennis then your no Don anyway. If she starts accusing you of being rude then NEXT her since she's apparently on a mission to tame you by not allowing you the right to be a man. Don't stand for the manipulation.

what he said.

 

[bfl]

aight so since i messed up there what do i do now?

Do i call her or do i just forget it and wait and see if she calls ( wich she aint i just know it) and wait till i see her.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by J-Man
what he said.

What's wrong with saying "No." If she asks why just tell her that you've got things to do. Is your purpose in life is that to return phone calls? Even if you have to wash your draws it's something. What the hell is this game playing BS?

 

[Rondavu]

What's wrong with saying "No."

The problem with just saying "No" is that it sounds too much like "Fvck off".

Is your purpose in life to return phone calls?

Is hers? Someone has to call someone.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Rondavu
The problem with just saying "No" is that it sounds too much like "Fvck off".



Is hers? Someone has to call someone.

So how many times have you returned a call to a woman and she was available?

Face it, women who are not flakes and have high a IL will get something (anything) set in stone before ending a telephone call.

 

[Big Pappy]

Talk about over-analysis.

Remember, when it comes to most girls, they use the phone to talk. She doesn't know it's going to be a quick "Hey, I'm going to do XXX, you're coming with me."

All this waiting x number of days to call- sheesh, wait four or five days if you want to. I'll lay the mack down on her while you're playing your silly game.

See, some people have forgotten that when you're busy, you really don't have to answer the phone. She should have just had her phone on vibrate and returned the call when she wasn't busy. But, she actually wanted to let you know that she likes you by wasting a cell phone minute on you. If she didn't like you, she wouldn't have answered the phone. ( you wouldn't have had the number, either)

So, you're irritated that this girl didn't drop everything to speak with you. I don't know what your history is with the girl, but since you weren't out with her, you haven't gotten that cl;ose to where this girl owes you anything but common courtesy - which she extended by answering the phone. Now, she probably should have volunteered to call you back, as you would have no way of knowing when she would be finished with whatever it was that she was doing. So, sue her. She is a girl, after all. She probably just doesn't think like you - which is good. She'll be all the more likely easily manipulated by DJ skills.

Be the best yourself you can be.

Now, chill, call the girl and relax!

 

[Rondavu]

So how many times have you returned a call to a woman and she was available?

almost every time

 

[bfl]

yeh well im make her @ss wait, i got no plans of callin' her anytime soon. i might on sat or next week sat.

Ima make her wonder about me.

 

[Rondavu]

You don't wanna make an issue out of it dude. Stop building up the importance of this in your mind. If you start to your half dead. Simply hang back, be cool, wait for her to call and be smooth when she does.

Answer this question honestly....

Who wants to talk to who more? You to her or her to you? If it's you to her then you better turn it around to her to you. She's gauging your desperation/interest level. If you show up anywhere even slightly on the desperate scale, then she has harnessed some control.

The real problem here is that you are viewing her as the fish to catch using the right bait, when you should just be hanging back waiting for her to throw the right bait to you.

If you act like a fisherman, the woman deduces that you must be hungry. Don't let her force your hand. She's trying to see how much your fishing. Don't allow a woman to force you into desperate behaviors. I'm not saying you shouldn't call her, I'm just saying don't call her because she told you to.

 

[bfl]

ima answer your question honestly 100 percent honest.
She wants to talk to me more than i do to her.

When she first started liking me i didnt pay her no mind, she told my cousins to give me my number so i can call her.

Once they gave it to me i didnt call her like for a whole week ( i still didnt really care).
The next time that i talked to my cousins they was tellin' me how she wants me to call her , that she really likes me , that she is callin' me boo, etc etc... and me and her havent really talked cause we dont really know each other i know her by my cousins.

So i finally decided to call her and we talk for like 4 mins cause it wasnt my phone she sounded VERY interested, i told her that i had to hang up and i was gonna call her back, didnt say when though, so i called her back 2 days later and thats when she said "can you call me back" and she sounded like she was having a VERY VERY good time cause when she picked up you could tell that she was laughin'.

But yeah she is the one that wants to talk to me more than me to her although that i also do.

 

[ManOMan]

BFL,

I have to agree that you are making this a bigger issue than the girl is making it

one thing I learned about single women is that they have a few guys they toy around with, talk on the phone, date, etc etc

A sad scenario would be if she said "can you call me back?" while she was talking to another dude, who she has a Higher IL in

dont invest so much time and energy in this gal, because she probably isnt either

 

[bfl]

true that, who knows maybe she was talkin' to some other dude or somethin' oh well