"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The_411

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Here's the problem we all get approached by people wanting donations, wanting to seel something and the usual questions is something along the lines of "Hi, how are you doing?" How are you doing is also a throw away question that people use as a way of greeting people.

People do a lot better when they don't get the how are you doing question but rather they get a) compliment b) a joke c) an observation d) a question.

The other thing is we don't know is what these women are doing when you approach sometimes they could are busy, concentrating, pre-occupied, on the rag, had their cat run over etc.

The key is picking up on cues. What is she wearing? Does it open her up to ridicule? What is she doing? Is it normal/natural or she acting weird? etc.

You don't just sit there but these are things you quickly process and look for an angle.

It's about angles really. Maybe you see a girl eating a food specific to an ethnicity maybe even yours you've got an angle. Maybe she's reading book about a topic you know about or are interested in, maybe you don't see an easy angle. There's always an angle.

Mind you an angle allows you to get a conversation going, it does not mean you are going to hook up, it jsut means you go beyond the girl ignoring you stage.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I use hey how are you doing as a hook to make it seem like im coming from a good place. I agree with you 411 the thing is im not really good at spotting those angles from just observing what shes doing, I think that comes much easier after you ask some questions. I also believe that my game kind of sucks right now because I run a interview type of game and im not sure how to change that. I listen to get some information to know what to talk about(angle) It just gets really boring for me to ask a whole bunch of questions. I thought I can change this by being c&f I really come off as an ******* and I've been told this by some people I know when I try to be c&f...
 

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They where probebly waiting for the sales line, or to find out what congressman or god you where going to promote. Hey how are you isnt what general people say walking down the street.
 
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If people are going to say negative things atleast be productive. Hey how are you doing if that's the worse thing that can be said in a cold approach atleast respond with a solution why waste your time. I noticed alot of guys on this site do that and im not bashing everyone on this site because some guys that responded had some helpful information. AM, I'm glad I made you feel good about yourself for 2 minutes.
 
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