cordoncordon
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Keep your chin up Danny. Someday she will realize just what a big mistake she made. Use this as a learning experience to grow from. 
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Can I save my LTR
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Well today is day 2 with no contact. She hasn't called me and I haven't called her because I took her number out of my phone (doesn't really help since I had it memorized)
The past 2 days seem to be going by so slowly and I almost lost it about a dozen times so far. I'm going to meet some friends at the gym for a workout and try to keep myself busy the rest of the weekend by studying for exams.
The past 2 days seem to be going by so slowly and I almost lost it about a dozen times so far. I'm going to meet some friends at the gym for a workout and try to keep myself busy the rest of the weekend by studying for exams.
DonGorgon
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Go meet some new hos... I bet $5 she has met some new dudes...DannykDJ said:
Honestly right now i'm really burned out and the thought of women right now just doesn't appeal to me.DonGorgon said:
I think i'm gonna take the summer off from girls and focus on other things. Right now all I want to do and am concerned with is get back to the point where I can go a day without crying and be completely happy just being by myself
DonGorgon
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Exacltly and then when you are not trying and least expect it miss right will appear...DannykDJ said:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
DonGorgon
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DannykDJ said:
Lishy
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Danny you will be fine!
Love should not make you feel like this and one day you will meet a girl who will never make you feel as bad as you do now!
First heartbreak is always the worst, you will never allow it to be this bad again
Chins up Mr
Love should not make you feel like this and one day you will meet a girl who will never make you feel as bad as you do now!
First heartbreak is always the worst, you will never allow it to be this bad again
Chins up Mr
Nelford
Don Juan
Danny you will be ok trust me. I went through a mean breakup my second year in college and I thought my world was over. I had to skip classes for a week to get my mind right. These guys on this board are telling you some good stuff. I invested so much into this girl that when she broke it off it was like loosing all your life savings in the market when you were told by your advisor to sell.
After that relationship I wouldn't let another women get close to me. I have sex with them but the minute they started getting to close I would lace up my shoes and head for the hills. But now I mature, know what I want and will not put up with any non-sense because I love myself to much to let anyone hurt me.
Oh and before I forget my ex still calls trying to get back with me. One time my mother stayed over my house and when she left she saw my ex outside in front of my house spying, so my mother waved to let her know that she was caught.
You are young, enjoy your life and concentrate on getting that good job, house and all that other good stuff. Next time you get in a relationship take things slow and really pay attention to her actions. Most things you will see if you pay attention.
After that relationship I wouldn't let another women get close to me. I have sex with them but the minute they started getting to close I would lace up my shoes and head for the hills. But now I mature, know what I want and will not put up with any non-sense because I love myself to much to let anyone hurt me.
Oh and before I forget my ex still calls trying to get back with me. One time my mother stayed over my house and when she left she saw my ex outside in front of my house spying, so my mother waved to let her know that she was caught.
You are young, enjoy your life and concentrate on getting that good job, house and all that other good stuff. Next time you get in a relationship take things slow and really pay attention to her actions. Most things you will see if you pay attention.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.