Can I go direct, right after initial approach?

[Canadien]

ok, so I've been field testing my first stages of approaches, and somehow I lose it after the initial stage, as I become too sensitive impeding in their personal space and I eject..

So, is it Ok if I just become direct right after the initial approach? How long am I expected to keep telling stories and jokes?

Am I getting into their personal space by going direct? Somehow I feel that I can say so much but first I need to find out a bit about them first, and maybe tell them about myself first, so guys go ahead let me know how to handle this disconnect after the initial approach...


:woo:

 

[Canadien]

bumper..

bumo!!

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Yo Canadien,



My advice to you is to always approach women that you are just meeting in a light and funny way. Always use the situation or your surroundings as a springboard to start a slightly humorous conversation. Always ask open-ended questions------questions that require for her to give you MORE than a yes or no answer to.

Then piggy-back off of her answers to keep the conversation going and to steer it into the direct of a coffee-type date or a telephone number exchange.

And there are ways to INCREASE your chances of a successful approach too. A few off the top of my head include:

Try positioning yourself face to face with a girl (from a safe distance), BEFORE you actually approach her. And when you catch her "eye", give her a nice, easy, friendly-BUT SEXY smile. And try to hold her gaze a little longer than you would normally. Try to hold her gaze until you either see her smile back and STILL keep looking at you------OR, until you see her avoid your eye contact by NOT holding your initial gaze and NOT ever looking at you again.

There is no absolute rule, but usually, when a woman holds your gaze and smiles back without having a "creeped out/uncomfortable" look on her face----it's a good chance she WON'T respond harshly negative to your approach. So when you see her smiling back, consider that to be her "okay" that it is cool to come chat her up.

Oh, and another thing about the transition from small talk to REAL talk. You can always use something like THIS as a number close:

"Hey, I'm on my way to "________", so I don't have much time. I've enjoyed talking with you, you seem cool...is there anyway we can see each other AGAIN, and ON PURPOSE? "

Then, just sit back and shut the fukk up. At this point, she will either tell you where you can see her again, exchange numbers with you ON THE SPOT, or just reject your advance by anouncing that she is "unavailable" to get to know you better for some reason.

And as far as her "rejection" speech goes, you can usually see it coming by how much she hems, haws, or hesitates before she answers you.

Good hunting, soldier.


March on.

 

[ToughLove]

ask her questions about herself

theres a suave saying that goes "a girl will feel like she knows u if u know alot about her"

seriously

just talk to her and get to know her, and throw in some jokes/compliments/flirting along the way, then get her # at any point, whether its 2 minutes after approaching, or 20 minutes (all depends how much she talks about herself and when u wanna stop her and just get her # lol)