"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Can I get with her?

Enyce

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So there's this amazing girl I met through school.

From my analysis of everything thats happened, she was into me, telling me things like, "sex with her boyfriend was getting boring", what I can tell was a challenge "my one rule is that no one can sleep on my bed", her general playful demenour, and not minding when id touch her, in various, including intentional ways..

Anyway, I believe strongly I ****ed up, but not really escalating, not really taking much action, acting chody, and pushy, and needy. Basically everything bad in the book (except mean, I'm not mean). I really like her, the feeling I have when I'm around her are only matched by intense pleasure of meditation.

I know, I've heard all the "**** this ***** go get more" talks, but I want to know if I can get her, what I should do to do this?

I may see her again at highschool grad in a few weeks (she's 2 years older than me) and I'd really like it if we could be together. If not, I guess that's alright too. I also have her phone number.

Please do help with what you can.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Prodigy746

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Hmm i dont know if you want to be with a girl that tells strangers that sex w her bf sux. If you get with her she will probably talk the same way about you. Also based on the information that you gave us i dont think we can determine if you have no chance to hook up with her. She might be an attention ***** or she might really like you and try to hop to another bf before letting this one go. Only one way to find out....call her ask to hangout and make a move.
 

46and2aheadofme

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Refer to the "Ganji Games" post.

If you are looking for something a little less extreme, do what prodigy said.

There are lots of girls out there who will lead a guy friend on because they like the ego boost they get from having a little lap dog guy who is obsessed with them in the way you are.

It sounds like you have one-itis and will screw it up somehow because your interest level is so high.

Just be aware that a certain level of emotional detachment on your part is healthy in this stage of the game.

This is why so many people vouch for spinning other plates, because it is the best cure for this trap this girl is most likely spinning for you.
 

xdreamz

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if you call her and she doesn't pick up then it's pretty much a sign saying 'you have no chance'
 

Enyce

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Thank you all for your help and advice. Some of it was really inspiring.

Unfortunately, I'm still to much of a ***** to call her up. I guess I'll wait till I may see her at graduation, and maybe do something then. Sigh.. Oh, well.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Enyce.

Look up Pvssy in the dictionary - your picture is right next to it.

Get your finger out of your a$$ and pick up the phone.

Either way, you'll get your answer and you'll earn from the experience. Stop being so nervous.

I'm outtie.
 
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